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I watched a nollywood movie called "The Art Of Letting Go" by Bolaji Ogunmola. It's an interesting movie and you can watch it on YouTube. This movie is unique because of the story.

It's a love story but not the usual happy ending. It tells the story of a lady who fell in love with a man who didn't love her enough to be serious with her but he kept showing up when he wanted her, her feelings didn't matter to him, and and he dated other women without remorse. He wasn't serious about her but he will say things that will give her hope or keep her hooked like "I can't let you go", "we are getting to know each other", "I want to wake up next to you", "You are special".

Why You Need To Avoid That 'Special' Type Of Love

The reason why I'm bringing this movie up is because these are the kind of relationships that make us women lose their minds. We fall so in love with this guy and want to grab every opportunity to hang in there though we are being bread crumbed. And when i say bread crumbed, I mean we are given less than the bare minimum in the relationship. We may know that he doesn't love us but we love them so much that we are ready to let them have their way all the time - just to have a piece of them or to feel worthy of their time.

Usually this man fits perfectly in the description of your dream man in terms of the physical look, intelligence and charisma and they are usually hard to forget or let go. Reason why in the movie the lady had a hard time resisting him.

If this story seems familiar to you or if you are in such a relationship then you need to make a real decision to leave because it will only make you mor miserable, make you feel unworthy and uncapable to make any decision for yourself. Your love is not enough to sustain the relationship for the both of you.

Such a relationship is like a drug that only takes from you and doesn't give back. even if you give it all you got this person will still not love more.

So it's time to think about yourself more; Treat yourself the way you expect this person to treat you. Give all the love to yourself and not him. Withdraw from him and keep your distance; This is the hardest part but you can do it. You are strong. Make yourself priority and treat yourself well. Don't accept the disrespect and lack of consideration anymore. You are too beautiful and worthy to be treated anyhow by anybody.

You got this.

Talk to you in my next one. Take care

I saw a post today on Threads where someone shared some trends on the internet that are scams.

On her list were the traditional wife creators who own monetized accounts which I agree with because they teach women to be traditional wives but they have accounts that make them money and give them a certain degree of independence depending on how much they make.

At the end of her post, she asked her audience to mention other scams if they knew any. A lady mentioned women working cooperate jobs which makes them feel broken. My first thought after reading her response was 'There are women who love and enjoy the cooperate world so why say that?'. Then I saw that below her response, someone said what was on my mind to her and she responded saying that what she mentioned was her experience. At that point, she was told not to generalize but to talk about her own experience.

Women Who Work Are Not Masculine | Don't Let Trends Fool You

That post made me think about the number of posts that I have come across where some women said that; a woman who works is operating from a masculine energy because women are not meant to work.

Honestly, I didn't even know if I should agree or disagree with that statement when I first heard it but over time I realized that I strongly disagree.

There are many independent women who are very feminine just like there are housewives who are not feminine at all. Femininity is an energy a woman carries and applies in everything she does. So a woman can work, earn a living, be independent and still be very feminine because her being feminine is not determined by the fact that she has a job or she's working.

With this trend of women wanting to be dependent on men, I wonder if there's a consideration for the risk of losing it all in case things go wrong. I know some kind men take good care of their wives and family without even complaining but it's always an advantage when a woman has her own money. Not all women married to or dating men who are providers have the freedom to express themselves or do what they want, And if the man is abusive it makes it even ten times harder to leave when you are dependent on him. To make depending on a man financially work for you, you have to make sure you save from what he gives you and you also have valuable properties in your name so that you can have something to fall on or to start a business in case things go sour.

It's true that by nature men are providers because that's what makes their ego grow but we now live in an era that requires women to work for their own survival and safety. Times have changed. Not only is life more expensive than before, but life is more complex because everything is being sold compared to before when people could rely on nature to provide food and shelter for free.

If you are blessed with a good man who is a provider, don't let it stop you from working or saving up or investing because there could be rainy days though we don't pray for it.

Don't let trends fool you because if there are consequences you'll be the only one to bear it o. Ok.

🌟 Navigating the realms of career and finances can be daunting, but with careful planning and strategy, you can set yourself up for a prosperous future.

Here are 4 Valuable Career and Financial Lessons for Success

1. Planning finances is crucial for financial growth. Tracking your expenses using a money or expense tracker app can help you understand where your money is going and identify areas where you can cut back on spending. By managing your finances effectively, you can allocate funds towards savings and investments that will contribute to your financial stability and growth.

2. Planning your career is equally important. Identify the job or career path you aspire to pursue and create a plan to achieve it. Conduct thorough research to understand the feasibility of your dream career based on your current environment, skills, and resources. This will provide clarity on the steps needed to reach your career goals.

3. While chasing your dream job, it's essential to find ways to sustain yourself financially. If your ideal career doesn't offer immediate financial stability, consider taking on a secondary job or source of income to meet your financial needs. Balancing your aspirations with practical financial choices is key to staying afloat as you work towards your dream career.

4. Prioritize increasing your income over saving if your current earnings are insufficient to cover your essential expenses. Focus on exploring opportunities to grow your income, whether through career advancements, additional skills development, or entrepreneurial ventures. By boosting your earning potential, you can enhance your financial capacity to cater to your needs and ambitions.

By embracing these insights and incorporating them into your financial and career planning, you can pave the way for a successful and sustainable future. Remember, intentional decision-making and proactive steps are the bedrock of personal and professional growth. Stay committed to your goals and strive for continuous improvement in both your career and financial journey! 🚀💰🌟

I've been thinking about this topic for a while now and I think it makes sense to talk about it now since March is women's month.

The complexities of gender equality and feminism

Feminism is a great movement that all women need to respect because it's thanks to feminists that we have all the freedom we have today. Think of the time when women had no right to talk, work, go to school, decide who or when to marry, vote or dress the way they please. It must have been an uncomfortable experience for the women who lived in that era. I know some women are still going through this as we speak and it's sad. But imagine yourself in that situation for a minute. That's something we don't want to experience for sure. That's why we need to respect the movement of feminists.

The reason why I'm making this post because I see a number of posts where women are saying that they are not in favor of feminists because they don't want to take financial responsibilities in their homes or relationship. They also mentioned that they want to be taken care of physically and financially by men.

There's a lot of miscomprehension when it comes to fighting for women's rights. Fighting for equality doesn't mean that you can't have a man provide for you if that's what you want. Equality simply means equal rights to freedom and opportunities for women and men. We are not talking about or comparing physical strength or financial duties. In a group of ten men, not all of them have the same physical, intellectual and financial strength. And that's same for women. There are even some women who are physically, financially and intellectually stronger than some men. So feminism isn't about women challenging men in any of these aspects because even in our respective genders there are weak and strong people. Feminism is about giving the freedom and opportunity to women who feel capable of doing what they want to do to do it.

Not all women want to be politicians, but the woman who chooses to be will be an inspiration to other women in their various paths of life. Reason why the freedom and opportunity should exist for she who feels capable to go for it.

I know there are extremists in the movement of feminists but when you know the base of the movement you'll not be led astray. And mind you, the men who are against the movement are very good at using this confusion and comparison to make women afraid to join the movement of feminists. Don't fall for that.

Do your research and have a good understanding of feminism in order to filter the good and the bad information. There's nothing wrong with being a feminist so own it and spread the right message about women's rights.

In today's digital age, the influence of celebrities and popular figures on the aspirations and ambitions of young people cannot be overlooked. As children grow up in a world saturated with social media, they are bombarded with images and stories of larger-than-life personalities who seemingly have it all - fame, fortune, and influence. It is not uncommon for children to idolize these individuals and aspire to emulate their lifestyles, careers, and success.

Shaping Aspirations: Parents vs. Celebrities as Role Models

However, amidst the allure of celebrity culture, it's essential to recognize the invaluable influence of parents as role models. Parents often serve as the first and most significant influencers in a child's life. They are the ones who work tirelessly to provide, nurture, and instill values and principles. Yet, in the pursuit of their own identity and aspirations, children may look beyond their parents for inspiration.

It's a complex dynamic when a child chooses a celebrity or popular figure as a role model over their parents. This shift can stem from a desire to break free from traditional roles, explore new possibilities, or simply find someone who encapsulates the vision of success they aspire to achieve. Instead of seeing their parents' hard work and dedication as the epitome of success, they may be drawn to the glitz and glamour of a celebrity lifestyle.

While it's natural for young individuals to seek inspiration outside of their immediate family circle, it's crucial to facilitate healthy conversations and reflections on the contributions and sacrifices of their parents. Understanding the journey and experiences of their parents can provide a grounded perspective on the realities of hard work, resilience, and perseverance. Parents can share their own stories of overcoming challenges, pursuing their dreams, and finding fulfillment in their endeavors, thus becoming tangible role models for their children.

Furthermore, it's important to acknowledge that aspiring to be like a celebrity or influencer can have its merits. These figures often use their platforms for philanthropy, activism, and positive change, offering valuable lessons in advocacy and compassion. However, striking a balance between appreciating these icons and recognizing the steadfast support and guidance of parents is essential for holistic personal growth.

Ultimately, whether a child looks up to their parents or to celebrities, fostering open communication and understanding within the family unit is key. Embracing diverse role models while cherishing the invaluable influence of parental figures can empower young individuals to sculpt their aspirations with a blend of admiration for external figures and appreciation for the unwavering dedication of their parents.

In our increasingly interconnected world, the ability to communicate in multiple languages not only facilitates deeper connections with people from diverse backgrounds but also opens doors to new cultures and perspectives. Embracing linguistic diversity can truly enrich our lives and broaden our understanding of the world.

Here are several languages that offer unique insights into different cultures and societies:

Diverse Linguistic Horizons: Languages You Should Learn to Embrace Cultures

1. Mandarin Chinese:

As the most spoken language globally, learning Mandarin provides a gateway to the rich tapestry of Chinese culture, history, and philosophy. It offers a profound understanding of one of the world's oldest civilizations.

2. Spanish

With over 400 million speakers, Spanish unlocks access to the vibrant and diverse cultures of Spain, Latin America, and Hispanic communities around the world. It is a language of passion, music, literature, and folklore.

3. Arabic

A language of poetry, calligraphy, and profound religious significance, Arabic provides insight into the rich heritage of the Middle East and North Africa. Learning Arabic fosters an appreciation for Islamic culture and traditions.

4. French

Renowned for its elegance and diplomacy, French is a language of art, romance, and haute cuisine. It is the key to understanding the heritage of France, parts of Canada, Switzerland, Belgium, and significant regions in Africa.

5. Swahili

Swahili's influence spans a vast region of East Africa, where it serves as a lingua franca. By learning Swahili, one gains an understanding of the mix of cultures and traditions in East Africa and connects with the region's diverse communities.

6. Japanese

From traditional tea ceremonies to modern technological innovations, the Japanese language unveils the depth of Japan's ancient traditions and contemporary pop culture. Mastery of Japanese offers a window into a society that seamlessly blends tradition with innovation.

7. Russian

Learning Russian opens the door to the rich artistic, literary, and scientific traditions of Russia and neighboring Slavic countries. It provides a lens through which to explore the complexities of Eastern Europe and Eurasia.

8. German

The language of philosophers and scientists, German offers access to centuries of intellectual and cultural contributions. Understanding German allows for a deep dive into the influential history and modern achievements of Germany, Austria, and Switzerland.

By embracing these languages, individuals can embark on a journey of cultural enrichment, gaining insights that transcend linguistic barriers. The pursuit of language learning is not merely an act of acquiring words and grammar; it is a pathway to deeper empathy, understanding, and appreciation for the diversity that defines humanity.

Let's celebrate the beauty of linguistic diversity and commit ourselves to broadening our horizons through the acquisition of new languages. As we learn to communicate across cultures, our world becomes richer, more interconnected, and profoundly more compassionate.

The new year, is the perfect time to reflect on our lives and make positive changes. The start of a new year brings with it a sense of renewal and the opportunity to embrace a fresh start. In this blog post, we will explore various ways to embrace a lifestyle of growth and positivity, helping you become the best version of yourself this year.

Embracing a Lifestyle of Growth and Positivity this new year

1. Reflecting on the Past Year:

Take some time to reflect on the past year and acknowledge your accomplishments, challenges, and lessons learned. Celebrate your successes and use your experiences as stepping stones for personal growth. Reflecting on the past year will provide valuable insights and help you set intentions for the year ahead.

2. Setting Meaningful Goals:

Setting goals is an essential part of personal growth. Take the time to set meaningful and achievable goals for different areas of your life, such as health, relationships, career, and personal development. Ensure that your goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART goals). By setting clear intentions, you'll have a roadmap to guide you towards a more fulfilling and purposeful life.

3. Cultivating a Positive Mindset:

A positive mindset is crucial for personal growth and overall well-being. Practice gratitude daily by acknowledging the things you are grateful for. Surround yourself with positive influences, whether it's through books, podcasts, or uplifting social media accounts. Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. Cultivating a positive mindset will help you navigate challenges with resilience and optimism.

4. Prioritizing Self-Care:

Self-care is not selfish; it's essential for your well-being. Make self-care a priority in the new year by incorporating activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. This could include practicing mindfulness, engaging in regular exercise, getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and indulging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Remember, taking care of yourself is a vital part of personal growth.

5. Embracing New Experiences:

Stepping out of your comfort zone and embracing new experiences is a powerful way to grow as an individual. Challenge yourself to try new activities, explore different hobbies, or learn a new skill. Embracing new experiences will broaden your horizons, boost your confidence, and provide opportunities for personal development.

6. Building Meaningful Connections:

Nurturing relationships and building meaningful connections is an integral part of a fulfilling lifestyle. Make an effort to spend quality time with loved ones, reach out to old friends, and make new connections. Surrounding yourself with positive and supportive individuals will inspire personal growth and create a sense of belonging.

The start of a new year is the perfect time to embrace a lifestyle of growth and positivity. By reflecting on the past year, setting meaningful goals, cultivating a positive mindset, prioritizing self-care, embracing new experiences, and building meaningful connections, you can embark on a journey of personal growth and become the best version of yourself. Remember, personal growth is a continuous process, so be patient and kind to yourself along the way. Here's to a year filled with growth.

In today's fast-paced, interconnected world, the concept of being cultured encompasses far more than a sophisticated taste in art and music. It signifies a deep understanding and appreciation of diverse aspects of human creativity, intellect, and heritage. To be cultured is to embrace a broad knowledge of literature, history, arts, and humanities while embodying open-mindedness, empathy, and a spirit of inquiry. In this blog, we'll explore what it truly means to be cultured and why it is essential in our modern society.

Embracing Cultured Living: The Importance of Broad Knowledge and Appreciation

At its core, a cultured individual possesses a multifaceted understanding of the world. This encompasses a wide range of topics, including literature, fine arts, music, philosophy, history, science, and global cultures. By immersing oneself in these diverse subjects, one gains a profound appreciation for the richness of human experience and creativity across different time periods and societies. Cultured individuals are able to engage in meaningful conversations, connect with others from various backgrounds, and empathize with different perspectives.

Being cultured goes beyond mere knowledge; it reflects a genuine curiosity and thirst for learning. It is about being attuned to the human condition and the complexities of our shared history. By delving into different cultural traditions, belief systems, and societal norms, cultured individuals develop a heightened awareness of the world around them. This awareness fosters a sense of empathy and understanding, allowing for respectful interaction with people from different walks of life.

Moreover, the importance of being cultured lies in its capacity to enrich one's personal and intellectual growth. Exposure to diverse art forms, literature, and historical narratives broadens one's horizons and nurtures creativity. It encourages critical thinking, empathy, and a deep appreciation for the sheer diversity of human expression. Furthermore, a cultured outlook enables individuals to navigate the complexities of our globalized world with greater insight and sensitivity.

In today's interconnected and multicultural society, the significance of being cultured cannot be overstated. Cultured individuals contribute to fostering a more inclusive and harmonious world by recognizing and celebrating the differences that define us. They stand at the forefront of promoting understanding, tolerance, and unity across diverse communities.

Embracing cultured living is an enriching and enlightened way of engaging with the world. It entails a broad knowledge of various disciplines and an unwavering curiosity about the human experience. Moreover, being cultured enables individuals to navigate the complexities of our modern world with grace and understanding. By cultivating a love for the arts, literature, history, and global cultures, we not only enrich our own lives but also contribute to a more compassionate and interconnected global community.

Are you an African woman looking to become financially independent? This post will show you why financial independence is the key to achieving your goals and dreams. Learn about the 3 main reasons why you should consider becoming financially independent and how it can help you reach your full potential and take control of your life today.

3 reasons why you need to consider being financially independent as an African woman

1. Financial independence gives you freedom

Imagine a situation where you can eat, go or do anything you want to because you can afford it. That's the freedom you get when you are financially independent. When you can afford your basics and at least some of your luxuries you are free. When you don't depend on others for your daily expenses then you begin to experience real freedom. It's true we need each other's support one way or the other but financial independence gives you the ability to make a choice and be free.

2. It helps you achieve your dreams and live your dream life

With financial freedom, you have a more peaceful mind to go after your dreams if you haven't achieved them yet. You also have the possibility to live your dream life because you can afford it.

3. It reduces your chances of being oppressed

When you depend on people who are abuse the power they have over you, you are exposed to violence and other forms of oppression. Most women who experience domestic violence can't leave mostly because they are not financially independent. They can't fend for themselves and their children so they are obliged to stay with their oppressors. A financially independent woman can choose to leave or has the possibility to escape violence because she can afford it and her fear of how she will survive are minimal.

Another bonus reason is that being financially independent sets a good example for your girl children and other young women. It also enables you to leave a legacy for them. If you are fully dependent on a man and you no longer have him in your life how will you survive?

It is very important to consider doing something that brings in some money dear African women - no matter how small it is. It is important!

Hi ladies,

Happy new year 🥂

I hope you had a great end of year break with yourself, your family and love ones.

A new year has started and we are back to business. Our goals and expectations for the year need action to come to life. It's time to snap out of the festive mood and start taking action to achieve them because in a world filled with endless possibilities and constant distractions, it's easy to lose sight of our goals and aspirations.

To stay focused, motivated, and aligned with our true desires, we need to have a theme for the year.

Just like an artist starts with a blank canvas, we can start each year with a theme that sets the tone for our journey ahead. A theme acts as a guiding principle, a compass that directs our actions and decisions throughout the year.

Choosing a theme allows us to define our intentions and priorities. It helps us stay grounded and make choices that align with our values and long-term vision.

With a theme in mind, we can set meaningful goals and create a vision board that reflects our aspirations. This visual representation serves as a constant reminder of what we want to achieve and the steps we need to take to get there.

Having a theme for the year gives us a sense of purpose and direction. It motivates us to take action, even when faced with challenges or setbacks. It reminds us that every step we take is a step closer to our dreams. As the year progresses, we can look back and celebrate the milestones we've achieved. Having a theme allows us to measure our progress and see how far we've come.

But a theme is not just about achieving specific goals. It's about embracing new opportunities, learning and growing along the way. It's about living intentionally and making the most out of every moment.

So, what will your theme be? Will it be 'courage,' pushing yourself out of your comfort zone? Or perhaps 'gratitude,' finding joy in the little things? The choice is yours.

As you embark on this new year, take a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you. Choose a theme that resonates with your heart and soul. Let it guide you, inspire you, and empower you to create the life you've always dreamed of.

Remember, having a theme for the year is not just a trend or a fleeting idea. It's a powerful tool that can transform your life and help you become the best version of yourself.

So what is your theme this year? Embrace it, live it and let it reshape your extraordinary year ahead.

Happy new year 🥂

If you want to live your dream life, you have to start with determination, hard work, patience and then manifestation.

Manifestation is the process of bringing your desires into reality. It's about tapping into the power of your mind and using the laws of attraction to manifest your dreams.

The law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, you can bring

positive or negative experiences into your life.

For example, if you want to attract more money, you would focus on thoughts and feelings of

abundance and prosperity. If you want to attract more love, you would focus on thoughts and

feelings of love and happiness.

The key to manifestation is to get clear about what you want and to focus on your desires with all of

your heart and soul. The more clear and focused you are, the more likely you are to attract your

desires into your life.

Here are some tips to help you get started with manifestation.

How to attract your dream life through manifestation

1. Get clear about what you want.

The first step to manifesting your dreams is to get clear about what you want. What do you want to

achieve? What do you want to create? What do you want to experience?

When you get clear about what you want;

2. Focus on your desires with all of your heart and soul.

The more focused you are on your desires, the more likely you are to manifest them into your life.

So, make sure to focus on your desires with all of your heart and soul.

3. Visualize what you want.

See your desired outcome in your mind's eye. Visualize what it would feel like to achieve your goals.

See yourself living your dream life.

4. Take action towards your goals.

In order to manifest your dreams, you need to take action towards them. This means taking steps to achieve your goals and making moves towards your desired outcome.

5. Believe that your dreams will come true.

One of the most important parts of manifestation is believing that your dreams will come true.

When you believe in yourself and your ability to manifest your desires, it becomes easier to make

your dreams a reality.

Start using these manifestation techniques today and you'll be one step closer to living your dream

life.

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1. Visual Arts:

Vincent van Gogh

2. Classical Music:

Ludwig van Beethoven

3. Literature:

Virginia Woolf

4. Theater:

William Shakespeare

5. Film:

Alfred Hitchcock

Here are several languages that offer unique insights into different cultures and societies:

1. Mandarin Chinese:

2. Spanish

3. Arabic

4. French

5. Swahili

6. Japanese

7. Russian

8. German

1. Emerging Entrepreneurs:

2. Visionary Leaders:

3. Advocates for Change:

4. Trailblazing Professionals:

5. Creative Innovators:

1. Reflecting on the Past Year:

2. Setting Meaningful Goals:

3. Cultivating a Positive Mindset:

4. Prioritizing Self-Care:

5. Embracing New Experiences:

6. Building Meaningful Connections:

3 reasons why you need to consider being financially independent as an African woman

1. Financial independence gives you freedom

2. It helps you achieve your dreams and live your dream life

3. It reduces your chances of being oppressed

Dear African woman | Your beauty is not enough!

How to attract your dream life through manifestation

1. Get clear about what you want.

2. Focus on your desires with all of your heart and soul.

3. Visualize what you want.

4. Take action towards your goals.

5. Believe that your dreams will come true.

1. Believe in yourself

2. Set goals and create a plan

3. Take action

4. Be persistent

How to have a growth mindset for success

Here are three ways to develop a growth mindset:

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