For a long time, I used to think that living a good life meant being busy all the time. Hustling. Rushing. Piling goals on top of goals. But over the years—especially after becoming a mother and going through some hard personal seasons—I’ve come to realize that fast doesn’t always mean better. And constantly doing more doesn’t always mean you’re actually living.

These days, I crave something different. I crave a slow life and a soft life—not because I don’t want success or ambition, but because I want my success to come with peace, freedom, and joy.

My Definition of a Slow Life and Soft Life: Personal Freedom, Fulfillment, and Joy

What a Slow Life Means to Me

To me, a slow life means choosing intentional living over constant busyness. It’s about creating space to breathe, think, and feel. It’s waking up and not rushing through the day. It’s giving myself permission to pause when I need to, to rest without guilt, and to focus on what truly matters.

It’s about enjoying simple things:

– Drinking tea slowly.

– Sitting outside and watching my kids play.

– Cooking a meal with love instead of stress.

– Journaling. Praying. Taking care of my plants.

– Saying no when something doesn’t align with my peace.

A slow life doesn’t mean I’ve given up on my dreams. It means I’m no longer chasing them in a way that drains me or makes me feel like I’m never doing enough.

What a Soft Life Means to Me

The soft life, for me, is about ease, abundance, and emotional safety. It’s about building a life where I’m not constantly in survival mode. Where I don’t always have to be strong or have it all together. It’s allowing myself to be gentle—with myself and with others.

It’s living with grace.
It’s creating a home that feels warm and safe.
It’s not feeling guilty for wanting beauty, comfort, or rest.
It’s doing work that aligns with my values and allows me time for family and for myself.

It’s also about financial freedom—not necessarily being rich overnight, but having enough to live well, take care of my kids, help others, and not be constantly anxious about money.

My Version: Personal Freedom, Fulfillment, and Joy

At the core of both the slow and soft life is what I truly want:
Personal freedom – the ability to choose how I live and work.
Fulfillment – the joy of doing meaningful work and being present with my loved ones.
Joy – not just in big achievements, but in the little moments that make life worth living.

I want a life where I can express myself through my blog, share what I’m learning, inspire other women, and still have time to sit in peace without pressure.

I want to earn money in ways that don’t steal my peace. I want my journey to be real, not rushed. Aligned, not forced.

The slow life and soft life I’m creating is not perfect—they’re still a work in progress. I still have days when I feel overwhelmed or unsure. But I’m learning to breathe through it. To take one step at a time. To keep choosing peace over pressure.

And every time I pause to enjoy a moment, smile with my kids, write from my heart, or feel calm after years of rushing — I remind myself: This is the life I prayed for. It may be slow and simple, but it’s rich in meaning.

I hope one day, more of us—especially African women—will feel safe enough to choose this kind of life too.

What does the slow or soft life mean to you?