Blogging Used to Be So Different… and I Miss That

Once upon a time, blogging was simply about sharing life—what we were thinking, learning, wearing, cooking, or feeling.

No performance. No pressure. Just realness. 

We wrote like we were writing letters to friends. People connected because they felt us.
And that’s what I want to bring back. 

Why I Shifted... and Why I'm Coming Back

Just like everyone, there was a time I felt the need to be very relevant.

To focus only on topics that I believed would help ambitious African women (like myself) feel empowered, especially mentally. And truthfully? That season gave me purpose.

But now, I want to return to the heart of why I started blogging—to share life as I live it.
Not just the advice, but the everyday beauty, lessons, softness, creativity, and becoming.

I still remain a strong advocate for women’s empowerment.
But instead of only teaching, I want to live my message—and invite you to walk with me.

What to Expect Here Now

This space will now feel more like a cozy journal than a classroom.

Here’s what you’ll find:

• 🌸 Soft reflections and daily musings from my everyday life

• 🧺 Lifestyle content — what I eat, wear, grow, and how I live like a woman who is becoming

• 💭 Life lessons as they unfold in real time

• 📚 Occasional useful guides or resources for those who still need the how-tos

• 💛 Stories and updates from my journey of rebuilding a more intentional, fulfilling life

This Space Is For You If… 

You’re a woman starting over.

Or maybe you’re slowing down.

Or simply trying to live well while raising kids and rebuilding dreams.

If you want softness, inspiration, honesty, and friendship…
You’ll feel right at home here. ☕

I’m no longer just sharing advice—I’m sharing my journey of life.
And I hope it helps you feel seen, less alone, and inspired to grow gently too.

If you’ve been here before, thank you.
If you’re new, welcome.

I can’t wait to journey with you and enjoy the feel of a bloggy blog again 😊.

With warmth,
Ngumabi

Returning to What Matters: My Blogging Journey & What’s Next

When I first started blogging, it was simply a way to express myself and share my journey as a young woman figuring out life. I wanted to inspire others along the way, and that mission has never changed—only refined. Over time, I’ve come to realize that my true audience is ambitious African women like you, women who dream, strive, and build something for themselves. My goal is to remind you that you are capable of achieving whatever you set your heart and mind to.

I won’t pretend that this journey has been perfectly smooth. Life happens, and consistency has been a challenge at times. But even during my breaks, I was always encouraged by the fact that my past content still reached and helped people. That meant a lot.

After a long pause, I decided to invest in this blog again—to show up, share, and grow with you. And here we are, almost three months into this renewed commitment. I hope you’ve been enjoying the posts and finding value in them because I’m loving this process all over again.

As I ease back into things, I also want to bring back more lifestyle content. Life lately has been intense—full of lessons, challenges, and moments of reflection. I’ve already started sharing some of these lessons in the self-development section of the blog, and I’m grateful to God for His guidance through it all.

I also took a much-needed break from social media—a long overdue reset. Now, I’m slowly making my way back, but this time with a clear focus: to create and share content that truly matters. Content that helps ambitious African women develop a stronger mindset, change their lives, and, of course, enjoy the journey along the way.

Thank you for being part of this blog, for reading, and for growing with me. There’s so much more to come. 💛

How to fall in love with the process of creating

How to get inspiration from the work of other creatives

- Look at their process or journey

- Check for similarities and differences between their work and yours

- Ask yourself how you can apply what you learned from their work or process 

- Ask how your can be different from theirs

Here are two things that inspire me daily as creative:

Other people's work

It's easy to get inspired by the work of others especially when you find work that is similar to what you want to do. I look at and follow up on other people's work and creativity to stay inspired.

Bringing my vision to life

Another great source of inspiration for me is the thought of bringing my own vision to life. Looking forward to seeing my own work inspires me to put in the effort daily.

Here are the two things that inspire me daily. What inspires you?

The rising popularity of influencer marketing in Africa has encouraged more young African women to desire the influencer lifestyle. These influencers share the best parts of their lives in beauty, fashion and lifestyle. They are sometimes called dream sellers because of the expensive lifestyles they often portray.  This has got many African women wanting to be like them.

Who wouldn't want to get paid while living their best life? 

Watch my video on this topic by clicking here.

But just like any other job or occupation, being an influencer in Africa has got its good, bad and ugly sides. 

The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Being A Female Influencer In Africa 🌍

The ability to make money from being famous or having fans is the best part of being an influencer. Brands or enterprises pay influencers to do adverts on their pages and accounts. They may also get free products from brands that they work with or attend events and get paid for their presence.

But in order to get to this level, you have to invest in your own social media branding and get many followers or fans. This requires lots of investment in terms of internet data, knowledge and time. You need to share images, captions or videos of something about yourself or something you know about in order to pull the attention of your audience and get them to follow you. And to build a huge following it takes time.

The other side of being an influencer is the trolls or haters as we commonly call them. Dealing with people who say hurtful things about you or your work can be hard to deal with.

One thing that most African female influencers are often referred to is prostitutes or girls seeking rich men to sleep with.

It is hardly believed that they work hard for some of the things they got. I say some because at times these influencers don't own everything they show. They may rent them or borrow or get them for free.

My favourite female influencers are Muriel Blanche and Nathalie Koah. They are Cameroonian influencers and entrepreneurs. Their humble beginnings compared to where they today inspire me a lot. Another influencer I admire is the Nigerian mom and relationship expert, Blessing Nkiruka commonly known as Blessing CEO. She also inspires me a lot.

These women gained popularity as a result of the things they do or did. It was good for some but it started out bad for others who had scandals to deal with. But the good thing is they turned their lemons into lemonade. They cleaned their images and fought for a better future for themselves. And today they are making a positive impact in the lives of other women.

Those are the good, the bad and the ugly of being an influencer in Africa.

If it is your dream to become one, I hope that you are aware of the opportunities and the risks you expose yourself to with this job.

In my opinion, it is a job worth trying but be ready to be consistent and patient as you show your audience the knowledge that you have.

Hello everyone 😊.

I'm so glad to have you back on my blog. It's been a while since I last posted something here and God knows how much I have missed my blog and you guys. 

The reason is my daughter was sick and it wasn't easy for me to handle that and blog at the same time. So I had to take an unexpected break from writing for you guys. We were admitted to the hospital and that experience got me really stressed. It felt like an initiation into another level of motherhood. That's a story for another blog post guys.

Right now we are all gently recovering as we all (Mama, Papa and Baby) are tired from the experience.

My tired face.

We have been eating healthy to recover well. To our nutrition, we have added fruits and white meats like pork and chicken amongst other things to help us recuperate. It feels nice and healthy to eat like this and we are thinking of adopting this new healthy lifestyle.

Pork stew & Irish potatoes. Recipe here

Irish potatoes and eggs

Fried plantain and egg

Cocoyam leaf soup and cocoyams. My daughter totally enjoyed this meal.

I tried making 'Kondre' with pork. I say I tried because I wasn't quite sure it came out as it should.

Ok here is my little girl getting back to her activities when we got home. She watches the children play downstairs.

With her favourite teddy.

Also sleeping and resting more 🥱 is part of our daily routine now. Not that we didn't sleep before but we just sleep more now because it has become such a necessity. The tiredness of being to the hospital couldn't be dealt with in one sleep session. So we've been taking lots of naps to recover.

Now that our bodies, minds and spirits are getting back to normal, I started getting the possibility to get back to my normal activities. I really missed blogging. I don't know if we will have a blog post published daily but I really want to get back to my daily blogging schedule. So I'll make efforts to do so.

On my YouTube channel, I made a video explaining why I have been on and off YouTube. Also, I had a pertinent question about Blogging in Cameroon so I made another video talking about how I feel lonely because I don't see any other personal lifestyle bloggers in Cameroon.

Here are the links to these vital videos for you to watch:

Why I have been on and off YouTube

So many stories to tell but few tellers

Reasons Why I Love Personal Blogs

I enjoy reading about the lives of others

They make you feel less lonely

I believe personal blogs are good for learning life lessons

They are entertaining and comforting

Personal blogs are written with a lot of love and emotion. I hope you read more personal blogs and interact with them.

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