Marriage Is an Option, Not a Measure of a Woman's Worth
Hi Radiants,
Over the past few days and weeks, there has been a topic on Cameroonian TikTok that got me thinking.
The discussion started when a young woman posted a video saying that she would rather be well-educated and financially stable than be married at this stage of her life. She explained that, for her, there is no point in marrying a man who does not have the level of intelligence, awareness, and understanding it takes to be with a woman like her.
Her video sparked a response from a Cameroonian male TikToker who disagreed strongly with her. In his reply, he said that he was beginning to dislike women who are too educated. He also stated that the type of women men are looking for are mothers or motherly women, along with some other comments that many people considered misogynistic.
His response triggered a wave of reactions from both men and women. What made me happy was that most people seemed to agree with the young woman. Many pointed out that we are no longer living in the old days and that marriage is not a compulsory path for every woman. Women can choose what they want to do with their lives.
Seeing these reactions made me realize that, despite the criticism often directed at feminists and feminism, there has been a shift in the way many people think. Both men and women are becoming more open to the idea that women should have the freedom to make decisions about their own lives. To me, that is a positive change and an important step for women's rights.
Personally, I believe that marriage is an option for women, not an obligation or a yardstick used to measure a woman's worth.
And when a woman chooses marriage, she has the right to choose when she gets married and who she gets married to. She should not marry simply for the sake of being married.
Women today are becoming more educated, more aware, and more empowered. They are investing in themselves, building careers, developing skills, growing personally, and pursuing opportunities. It is only natural that many of them want relationships with men who have the awareness, intelligence, and emotional maturity to be compatible with the lives they are building.
A woman has the right to choose according to her desires and values.
Her life is not empty because there is no man in it.
In fact, some women would rather be alone than remain in relationships that make them uncomfortable, unhappy, or unable to be themselves. If a woman chooses to be with a man, it should be because he is right for her and because the relationship adds value to her life, not because she feels pressured to be in one.
Another thing I think is important to remember is that relationships are only one part of life.
Sometimes women become so focused on finding a man that they make relationships the center of their lives and end up overlooking everything else.
But life is made up of many things.
You can spend your time building yourself, building your career, learning new skills, practicing hobbies, reading, exercising, traveling, going on solo dates, creating memories, and doing things that make you happy.
Dating and relationships are simply one of the many things that can be part of your life.
If dating is not working for you, or if you have not found the right person, life does not stop. You can continue living, growing, and enjoying your life. It is not a do-or-die situation.
Women have the right and the power to decide what is good for them and what is not.
Marriage is a choice.
Having children is a choice.
Neither of these things should define the essence of a woman's life, her value, or her purpose.
A woman is a complete human being with dreams, goals, interests, talents, and ambitions of her own.
Marriage can be a beautiful part of life for those who choose it, but it should never be treated as the only thing that gives a woman's life meaning.
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