Being in your twenties can feel very fabulous. But that is the period which determines a lot in your life. Here are fifty honest pieces of advice for you if you are in your twenties.

50 Honest Pieces Of Advice For 20-Year-Olds 

1. Listen to the wisdom that comes from the mistakes other people have made, but remember you also have strengths and wisdom they don't have

2. Live your life, and take responsibility for your actions.

3. Yellow flags become red flags. Don’t ignore both.

4. Don’t confuse love/connection for infatuation.


5. The reason why we miss or hang on to people is that we feel they will fill the unmet need that we didn’t get as a child.

6. Alcohol is literary a poison killing your energy and your shine

7. You don’t need him boo.

8. Start training your mind on how to visually see your success every day.

9. Don't try to be perfect, that's impossible. Give yourself permission to fail, without shame, learn from your mistakes and always move on trusting yourself and your path.

10. Be patient and don’t be afraid to fail

11. Save 25% of EVERY incoming income.

12. Be your own hero.

13. Live in the present, experience, make mistakes, play, enjoy!

14. Be in touch with your heart and your feelings. Cultivate and practise compassion, love and kindness toward yourself and others.

15. Take the time to get to know yourself, live and embrace your truth, be authentic.

16. Take the time to figure out what YOU want to achieve in life. Don’t rush anything. You’re young and have all the time in the world. Don’t take life to serious (yet).

17. Learn from everything: from people, from books, from the process, from life, from your failures, from everything.

18. Look for a purpose for your life, when you know who you are you will know what your purpose is.

19. Don't think you know better.


21. Keep studying harder, be the best one and look for a profession that makes you happy.

 22. Learn with patience.

 23. Don't fear to think and dream big.

24. Enjoy your life to the fullest. Time flies. Make the most of it. Do what you like. As for making a living, do ONLY what you like. Trust your own capabilities. You deserve the best life has to offer. Be smart.

25. Travel and try new things.

26. Forget about your insecurities.

27. Listen more than you talk.

28. Use your 20s to try out things and have a variety of life experiences, have fun, make mistakes, don't be afraid to make mistakes, travel the world, and invest in personal development. Don't make a job decision based on what looks good on your CV, but rather what feels good to you now as a next step


29. Spend your time around people who either help you grow, you can have fun with, or are of valuable support to you. Do not waste your time with people that do not want the absolute best for you and don't lift you up when you think of them.

30. Respect other living beings.

31. Be grateful for everything that you have.

32. Take calculated risks and design your own path.

33. At 20, a person is heavily influenced by their friends. Take a good hard look at them and seriously ask yourself if they are helpful or hurtful for YOU. If hurtful, run away from them.

34. Work hard, and listen to people who have been there before. Find strong and positive influences.

35. Create the habit of reading. Your concept of the world will change and with that your perception of success.

36. Go full speed after your dreams.

37. Just because you’re cute and have a nice body doesn’t mean you need to sleep with everyone who thinks you are cute.

38. Don’t get pregnant until you know who you are and what you want in life.

39. Focus more on short term goals.

40. Don't trust and love everyone.

41. Dream BIG, start SMALL and stay HUMBLE.

42. Watch a lot of Gary Vaynerchuk very informative.

43. Listen to people who are in a position you want to be in.

44. Be careful who you marry/have kids with.

45. Know your worth and always strive for more.

46. Do NOT try to fit in and do things because you think other people will think it's cool. Attention will NEVER make you genuinely happy. Seriously so many people at age 20 spend all their time trying to be cool and worry about having the newest cool trends and the coolest iPhone and so on. Once you develop genuine happiness and learn to love yourself you'll only regret all the time and money and energy you wasted trying to fit in this box.

48. No matter what happens, always love and put GOD and then yourself first.

49. Embrace growth.

50. Advice given is only received when the mind is open.

One of the biggest things that's stopping people from having what they want in life is FEAR. Fear can paralyze you and make you unhappy because it stops you from doing the things you want to do. That's why it is important to discover what kind of fear you are dealing with and find solutions to get it out of your way.

Here are four different types of fear you may be feeling.

4 Different Types Of Fear & How To Overcome Them By Yourself

Fears and Symptoms 

Fear of the Unknown,

You fear something but you don't know what it is. You have no clear knowledge of the danger you think you may come across. It can also be when you are not clear about the possible effects the danger might have on you. This is the case with what we are currently facing now in the world which is the fear of COVID-19. We are afraid to get it and this virus has caused many people to lose their jobs, therefore, causing them to fear what will happen to them in the future.

Fear of Failure,

You are afraid of not succeeding in the things you want to do or achieve. Fear of failure comes from a series or a pattern of failure like when the people you know have failed in the past or you have experienced a series of failures. This may make you think or start to believe that you will fail again when you try the next thing or project.

Fear of Success,

You fear being successful or achieving your goal. This usually stems from the fact that we have attributed negative stereotypes to money and being successful. For example, many people believe that rich people are heartless, they are unhappy or that money is evil. These beliefs can affect your desire to succeed because you may be afraid of being a bad person when you eventually become rich.

Fear of What Other People Think

How To Overcome Your Fears.

Health

Skin Care

- Use as few chemicals on your skin as possible
- Wear sunscreen and Moisturize
- Treat your skin

Looks

- Avoid extra piercings and tattoos. You may regret them later.
- Invest in durable outfits. It will save you money and make you look expensive.

Social

- Party as much because you may not be as carefree in the future when you have more responsibilities.
- Have fun and socialize but protect your reputation. Don't do things that you may regret doing in the future.
- Choose good friends.
- Do not feel obligated to stay with a crowd who are not on the same wavelength.
- Drink only good alcohol. It will make you drink less.
- Have impeccable manners.
- Don't get drunk in public.
- Surround yourself with people who want to lift you up not bring you down.
- Careful about what you post on the internet. It may hunt you forever.

Finances

- Learn about how to do financial investments.
- Save part of your paycheck every month for an emergency fund.
- Invest
- Don't buy expensive stuff that you won't use often.

Relationship

- Don't risk falling in love with a man whose vision of life does not align with yours
- Date older guys (at least eight years older). You'll learn a lot from them.
- Don't date men who are rude, low class or hoping to change. It's a waste of time and energy.
- Do not have kids unless it is with a high net worth man to whom you are married to.
- Invest your love, attention and energy only in men who invest in you.
- Don't focus on getting a man. There is enough time for that. Enjoy your life first. Have fun and learn as much as you can before you commit.
- Get to know yourself before you get into marriage if it comes in your twenties.
- Don't over-invest in a man.
- Don't waste your time on cheap men who make you feel worthless
- Don't believe a man can change if he is bad.
- Don't join your finances with that of a man.

Family

- Spend more time with your grandparents if you still have them. You will learn a lot from them
- Love & honour your parents.

Note that you must not do or not do all of these things but just find the ones that resonate the most with your life's objectives and goals.

One of the dangerous effects of the pandemic is that it can cause anxiety. Anxiety doesn't feel good at all. It starts slowly and then takes over your mind and body. That's why you have to fight it as soon as possible. Don't give it an opportunity to install itself in your body.

I know the title says a day but this post actually discusses a series of days when I went out seeking a job.

When I wrote this post on whether to work 9-5 or 24 hours. My mind was divided between being an employee and just having my own business. An employee doesn't have to worry about the risk of setting up a business while an entrepreneur can be flexible with his work hours.

These facts have had me think and rethink about getting a job.

Things you must note here are:

- You may not make sales or profit at the start of your business,

- You need to 'survive' while building a business, and

- It takes time for a business to grow.

These factors made me consider being an employee for a while - that is until the business is doing very well. I also secretly desire to have a good NGO Job in Cameroon so it motivates me to take a step toward being an employee.

That's why from time to time I do some job hunting. I often use these sites I shared in this post (click here) to find a job. But the job I went for this time around was sent to me by a friend.

How it went down...

The requirements for the job were quite simple. There was only one document that needed to be certified. Honestly, I detest when the initial documents requested requires that you certify documents. It makes you spend money when you are not yet sure you will be called for an interview.


The certification had to be done at my university (it was a success attestation that's why) and it took me three days to do so. First, I had to deposit the documents then I only collected it on the second day after deposition. But I went there on all three days. Click here to find out how to certify your documents at the University of Yaoundé 1. It took me three days but I was glad I finally had it done.

Waiting for the certification office to open so that I collect my documents

Returning home tired & disappointed because I couldn't collect my certified documents that day

OOTD  -  Outfit of the day on day three. I finally took my documents and deposited that day

Stepping out

My file and baby essentials comfortably fit in my bag made by my brand @ngumabi

I finally deposited for the job after I collected the certified documents. I met others who came to deposit as well as those who came after me. Who knows how many more came after I did and the number that has been deposited before? That's when it occurred to me that I had to go back home and start to pray that I am chosen among the many candidates that are also soliciting this position. That's Cameroon for you. A job which requires ten people will end up receiving a thousand applications. I wonder how those who are part of the human resource department usually proceed in such cases.



Anyway, what's important is that I have done my part. It wasn't a difficult task but it was not easy for me because I was with my baby throughout the process. From writing the application at home, working on my CV, certifying my documents and depositing them. It was not easy carrying her around. I went to the certification office three times as I mentioned and each time I thought of going there I felt so tired before I would go. But I had to go there and I eventually succeeded in everything I planned to do for the day. The second day I went there, I was to collect my documents but the office was locked though it was the said time for people to collect their certified documents. I went back and it was only the next day that I could collect them. At that time it was left just two days to the deadline for the job offer.

Why I am writing this story...

The main reason I am sharing my experience is to encourage not only young mothers but also anyone who feels like they have something standing in the way of them pursuing something. If you really want it then do it. Push past the obstacle and show that you are ready to get what you want. I have let motherhood and even before motherhood, I let my timidity and fears bring me down. But now, I carry them along with me to pursue my dreams and get what I want from life.


When you do this, you will get used to not letting things get in your way and you will adapt. Soon the things standing in your way will no longer be a problem. If you are waiting for these things to make way before you start doing what you want to do then they may never give way. There will always be many reasons to not do something but choose to pursue your dreams for just one valid reason. One reason is all you need.

How it impacted me.

After this experience, I feel so gingered and motivated to do many things and this energy has spread even to my business and school project which I am planning to finish this month.


As I continue my job search I am working on my business. It has been a rough ride so far but the one thing I keep hearing from the voice in my head is to KEEP PUSHING. And that's exactly what I am doing.


Thanks for reading this post till the end. I hope you liked it and feel encouraged. Leave me a comment in the comment section below and just share with me what obstacles you are facing in life and let's have a chat about it.

Starting a business isn't easy. Trust me. 

There's a lot to think about at the same time that will overwork your brain. No matter how small the business. My journey of getting back to entrepreneurship has made me mad busy these past weeks. Ever since December last year, I have been putting together the things I need for my business. I am almost done with that now and it's more relaxing to think that I can start the real part of the business - which is making sales.

Before we get into the sales part, let's rewind a little to the stages that led us here. It's been an amazingly enriching journey so far as an entrepreneur so far. It has been a tedious one as well. A lot of decisions to make alone as I am a sole proprietor and apart from the decision to entrepreneur, the other decisions concerning the business have not been easy to make.

Lots of confusion, in the beginning, filled me with doubt on what to do. I asked myself which thing is right and what outcome I will have based on the decisions I make. This part of the business is nerve breaking. Seriously. I spent nights thinking for hours and researching just to make the right decision before I go to bed. And the next morning I was confused again. And the process started all over again. The one thing I learned here is that there is always a solution to every confusion or doubt. But each solution doesn't come at the same time or using the same means. You may have to do more research to find certain solutions or think a bit further and discover a whole new way of doing things which may surprise you.

Another thing I stayed true to was my instinct. I listened to it and tried to understand what it was telling me about my business. And sometimes when I was confused and couldn't really decide, I went with what my instinct was telling me.

Deciding to get back to entrepreneurship was more spontaneous than calculated. I have always loved to do business. I started but later stopped for a long while for some reason. When I started thinking of getting back to business I never thought of a specific time in the future that I should start. It always felt like I should be doing it now - at the moment I was thinking about it. I felt like I was already late and I was wasting time. While I was pregnant with Coucou and nursing her, the desire to revive my businesses grew stronger. When I had some money to invest, I started buying the things I needed. The money didn't come at once. I just kept investing the little I got from time to time. And here we are back in business.

I intend to start selling today and will share my journey with you guys and the lessons I learn while doing business in Cameroon. My products are sold online as I can't afford a store right now. My parlour has become a warehouse, lol, with huge bags of clothes for men women and children.

My current warehouse/parlour. There's still some unorganized stuff in there too.

For now, I have three businesses. One sells kids' wear between 0 - 15 years and the other is my brand which creates stylish and comfortable outfits and accessories with African fabric for men and women. 

Check out the websites by clicking the links below: