Things I’ve Learned From Moving Multiple Times

I’ve moved several times over the past few years. Not because I love the process—it’s stressful, emotional, and exhausting—but because life has taken me through different seasons that required different spaces. Some moves were planned. Some were forced. Some were healing. Others were freeing. But every move taught me something new about life, independence, and myself.

Looking back, I now realize every move carries its own story. And no two moves are ever the same.

Here are some of the things I’ve learned through all my moves—and maybe, if you’re going through a change or considering one, this will help you make sense of your own journey too.

1. The Reason You Move Shapes the Way You Feel

Each move comes with its own emotion. I’ve moved out of survival, I’ve moved out of freedom, I’ve moved out of exhaustion, and I’ve moved out of hope.

Leaving the apartment I shared with my ex was painful but necessary. That move came with fear, urgency, and heartbreak—but also courage. The apartment I moved into next became a refuge. It saw me cry, heal, scream, hope again, and rebuild my confidence after everything I lost in that relationship.

Now, moving out of that healing apartment felt completely different. It wasn’t about escaping anymore—it was about growth. The mold on the walls, the noise from the road, and the discomfort of the space made it hard to stay, even though a part of me was emotionally attached to the history within those walls.

I’ve learned not to expect every move to feel the same. Sometimes you’ll feel relieved. Sometimes you’ll cry more than you expected. And both are okay.

2. Some Homes Are Meant for a Season—And That’s Okay

I used to believe that once I found a place, I would stay there for five years minimum. I longed for that kind of stability. And I still do. But reality has shown me that some spaces are not meant to be permanent—they are meant to carry you through a certain phase of your life.

Maybe they’re not perfect. Maybe they’re temporary. But they hold you when you need them most. They serve a purpose. And when that purpose is fulfilled, it’s okay to let go.

The house that sheltered your healing may not be the one that sees your flourishing. It’s not a failure—it’s a shift.

3. Moving Out Is Not Just a Physical Act—It’s an Emotional One

When you’ve cried in a room, laughed in a kitchen, prayed in a corner, or danced in your living room, it becomes more than just a building. That space starts to hold pieces of your story.

And when it’s time to go, it can feel like you’re leaving behind a version of yourself. I felt this deeply in my recent move. I wasn’t just saying goodbye to an apartment—I was saying goodbye to the woman who first entered it two years ago, broken and afraid. And I was proud of the woman who was walking out—healed, stronger, and more grounded.

So don’t be surprised if you feel heavy when leaving a space. Closure is not only for relationships—it’s also for homes that held you.

4. You Will Lose Things—And That’s Part of the Journey

Each time I move, I lose something. Sometimes it’s physical—plates, clothes, or a piece of furniture that just doesn’t fit anymore. But other times, it’s emotional. I lose attachments, old habits, or outdated versions of myself.

Some things I thought I couldn’t live without suddenly have no place in my new home. And other things I never valued before become precious.

Moving teaches you about what truly matters.
What’s useful, what’s clutter, and what needs to be released.

5. The Next Place Is a Blank Canvas—Let Yourself Explore It

Here’s the thing about moving into a new home: no matter how ready or excited you are, you don’t really know what it will feel like until you live in it.

Every new apartment or house comes with a fresh energy, and you get to define what that energy becomes. You’re not just arranging furniture—you’re planting seeds for a new season.

You won’t have all the answers on day one. And that’s okay. Let yourself settle slowly. Let the space grow on you. Let it reflect who you are now, not who you used to be.

6. Moving Teaches You About Yourself

With every move, I’ve learned to listen to myself more. To recognize when I’m forcing something. To trust when I feel peace. To let go even when I don’t have a full plan.

I’ve learned that I value quiet. Privacy. Light. View. Safety. I’ve learned that I want to live where I can hear birds in the morning, not cars honking at dawn.

I’ve also learned that I can do hard things. That I’m resourceful, that I can ask for help, and that I can rebuild from scratch—again and again, if I need to.

7. You’re Allowed to Feel It All

The mix of emotions during a move is real. Relief. Anxiety. Excitement. Nostalgia. Even fear. Don’t feel guilty for being emotional. And don’t rush to feel “settled” right away.

Take your time.
Feel the sadness of leaving, and the hope of entering.
Honor your process.

Let Every Move Be a Milestone, Not Just a Moment

If you’ve moved a lot like I have, you may feel tired. You may long for roots. But you can also see it as proof of how far you’ve come. Each move marks a shift in your journey, a moment when you chose to take action—either to survive, to heal, or to grow.

Let each move remind you that you are still in motion. That life is unfolding. That you’re not stuck. And that every time you move, you get closer to becoming the woman you were always meant to be.

So here’s to the places that held us.
Here’s to the ones we outgrew.
And here’s to the ones still waiting to be filled with laughter, light, and new beginnings.