How to Stop Feeling Late in Life

The other day I was on the Oprah Winfrey Network YouTube Channel (btw you should check out the channel for she's got some great stuff for personal development there - thank me later!). I came across a video of one of her shows where she interviewed Robert Kiyosaki who wrote: "Rich Dad, Poor Dad". His story is really inspiring as he talked about how he made a lot of money by changing this mindset about money and retired at the age of 47. 

At this point, I was like OMG. Imagine how rich and successful this guy was all ready to retire as early as that. Well, this happened so many years ago but the thing is more and more people are getting very rich and successful before they clock 20 or 30 years. In Robert Kiyosaki's case, he was already a millionaire by 30. 

The Forbes 30 list celebrates young people who are game-changers every year. And every year, more young people make it to that list before they even turn 25. On the internet young, successful and rich teens hardly go unnoticed as they make headlines on blogs and social media. Should I mention Kylie Jenner who will be worth more than a billion dollars by the year 2022 or her sister who was the highest-paid model in the world last year 2017? Both of them are 20 and 22 years respectively. 

I think there are people so young in your area who are really successful and this can be really disturbing because it makes one feel like a complete failure. It's so easy to compare yourself with such people and ask yourself "what exactly have I been doing with my life all these years?" 

You may be 29 years old like me and you are still trying to figure out what to do with your life (yes at 29). That's OK. Seeing people way younger than I am become so successful also makes me think and feel like a failure. 

But in this case, you are the victim because you talk down on yourself, compare yourself and direct all the negative thoughts to yourself. You blame yourself for not being successful and being older than them makes you feel like a failure and a loser. It also makes you feel like there's something wrong with you and may look like you are frustrated. 

Each and every one of us has a path to follow so our journeys cannot be the same, neither is our timing. God says in the Bible that he cannot let you carry a problem too much for you to bear. Now, this goes to show you that whether it is trouble or success, it will come differently to each and every one of us. In various ways, through various channels and at various times after putting in various amounts of effort because our successes are not the same.

So this is what you have to do:

You don't want to do this, OK? It's not good for you. It will only bring regret and make you feel even more worthless and kill your self-belief. So don't let your mind go there. 

Remember that life happened. And whatever thing that is responsible for you not being where you want to be, happened for a reason: to teach you and make you the person you are today. So remember the lessons you have learned all these years and don't see that period of your life as a waste of time. It is not. Patience is a virtue but it is not something that most of us have as a character. Those times you were slowed down taught you how to be patient. Now, that's a great lesson.

Don't ever stop your grinding, honey. You may feel weak or discouraged, but keep working towards your goal. Do one thing a day that moves you close your you goal even if you lost your motivation to grind.

Find ways to work smart! learn the good tricks that others are applying to succeed and do the same.

After learning, create a new strategy and use it.

If you can't do it on your own and feel like you need someone to guide you then find a mentor to help you.

Seek the light at the end of the tunnel. Never give up!

The internet can be a very toxic place as well so you need to arm yourself with a lot of positive thoughts in order not to lose yourself.