It’s been a while since I sat down to write something just for the sake of sharing what’s been going on — and that’s what today’s post is. A little life update, a little check-in, and a soft beginning to something new.

Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit overwhelmed about the next step in my blogging journey. I recently cleared out my drafts — a fresh start — so I can begin a new wave of posts. It’s exciting, and honestly, a little scary too. I’ve been wondering: Will you like the new content? Will it still connect the way it used to?

At the same time, I’ve also been thinking (and overthinking) about something else that’s been on my heart — my business, Ngumi’s.
It’s been a while since I ran it actively, and though I’ve been wanting to restart, I keep getting stuck on the what-ifs.
What if I don’t sell? What if it’s not received well?
I know these feelings are normal, especially after a pause, but they’ve been sitting heavy on me and slowing me down more than I’d like.

But this is me pushing through it — even just by writing this post.
This is the first post in the new rhythm I’m creating for this blog.
Like I mentioned in an earlier post, I’m going back to how we used to blog a few years ago — when we simply wrote from the heart, shared our lives as they were, and connected through the little things.

This space is returning to that — a blend of lifestyle and life lessons.
Content that feels like a chat with a friend. Sometimes entertaining, sometimes helpful. Sometimes soft and reflective. Other times, just vibes and a recipe. Because I know that’s how we really consume content — to learn, to feel seen, or to simply escape and breathe.

So here’s to a new week.
I’m hoping for less overwhelm, more flow, and the courage to start again — with blogging, with business, and with everything else in between.

Wherever you are, I hope your week feels kind to you.
Sending softness your way 🌸

Love,
Ngumabi

The Importance of Saying No and Setting Boundaries: How Saying No Allows for the Soft Life You Deserve

Saying “no” is a simple word, but it carries so much power. It’s one of the most important tools I’ve learned to embrace on my journey to creating the soft life I’ve always dreamed of. Setting boundaries and learning to say no isn’t about being selfish; it’s about protecting your peace, honoring your time, and making room for the things that truly matter.

When I started my journey towards a more fulfilling, soft life, I realized that saying yes to everything—whether it was extra commitments at work, social obligations, or even just being stretched thin by the expectations of others—was draining me. I was giving away pieces of myself without getting anything back. Slowly, this began to impact my mental health, my productivity, and my relationships. I had to stop and ask myself: What’s the point of living a full life if it’s not my life? And if I don’t take control of my time and energy, who will?

Why Saying No is So Hard

For many of us, especially as women, saying no can feel like a challenge. There’s a societal pressure to be everything to everyone—mother, wife, friend, professional, caregiver. We’re conditioned to be nurturing, accommodating, and self-sacrificial. But in the process, we often forget to prioritize ourselves.

Saying no feels uncomfortable at first, and there’s a fear of disappointing others, losing opportunities, or being perceived as selfish. However, the truth is that saying yes to everything means you’re saying no to your own well-being, your dreams, and the things that matter most to you.

Setting Boundaries: The Foundation of a Soft Life

Boundaries are not walls, but protective lines that define what you’re willing to accept in your life. Setting boundaries is one of the first and most important steps in designing a soft life because it allows you to preserve your energy, focus, and joy.

• Work Boundaries: For me, this meant creating clear limits around my work hours. I used to answer emails at all hours of the night and weekends, just trying to get ahead. But I learned that doing so only led to burnout and a lack of time for myself. Now, I set work hours and prioritize time for breaks, family, and relaxation. This has not only improved my productivity but also my sense of fulfillment.

• Personal Boundaries: Another critical aspect of my journey has been learning to say no to events or commitments that don’t align with my goals or values. I used to feel obligated to attend every social gathering or take on every project, even if it left me feeling exhausted. Now, I’m more selective, making sure that what I say yes to is something that truly energizes me or aligns with my vision for the future.

• Emotional Boundaries: This one has been particularly important. I used to carry the emotional weight of others—whether it was friends, family, or colleagues—without realizing how much it was impacting my own emotional health. By setting emotional boundaries, I’ve been able to protect myself from being drained by situations that are outside of my control. I’ve learned that it’s okay to distance myself from negativity, drama, or people who don’t respect my boundaries.

How Saying No Leads to the Soft Life You Deserve

The soft life I envision is one that doesn’t come at the expense of my well-being or happiness. It’s a life where I have the space to enjoy the things that matter most to me—whether it’s my family, my passions, or my personal growth.

• More Time for What You Love: When you say no to the things that don’t serve you, you open up space for the things that bring you joy. For me, this meant saying no to overworking myself and instead carving out time for my hobbies like writing, fashion, and creating content for my blog and YouTube channel. The time I’ve gained by saying no has allowed me to truly enjoy the things I love, without feeling overwhelmed.

• Stronger Relationships: Setting boundaries has also strengthened my relationships. When I’m clear about what I can and can’t do, I’m more present in my interactions. I’m able to give quality time to my family and friends because I’m not stretched too thin. By saying no, I’ve shown my loved ones that I respect myself and my time, and they, in turn, respect that too.

• Better Focus on Your Goals: Saying no isn’t just about turning down things that drain you; it’s about choosing to focus on what truly aligns with your vision for your life. For me, saying no to things that don’t move me forward has allowed me to double down on growing my businesses, writing my book, and creating meaningful content. By protecting my energy, I’m able to work more efficiently and purposefully.

• Increased Peace and Fulfillment: Perhaps the greatest benefit of saying no is the peace it brings. When you’re no longer constantly overwhelmed by obligations, you create space for relaxation, self-care, and fulfillment. I’ve found that when I honor my boundaries, I’m able to approach life with more joy, confidence, and contentment. It’s a reminder that I’m in control of how my life unfolds.

Saying no is a powerful act of self-love. It’s a reminder that your time, energy, and peace are valuable. You have the right to protect your boundaries and choose the life you want to live. The soft life I’ve been working towards is one of freedom, peace, and intentionality, and it wouldn’t be possible without the ability to say no.

If you’re on the journey to creating your own soft life, I encourage you to start saying no to the things that drain you, no to the expectations that don’t align with your goals, and yes to yourself. By doing so, you’ll create more space for the things that truly matter—and begin living the peaceful, intentional life you deserve.

What boundaries are you setting in your life right now? How has saying no helped you create more peace and joy?

How You Can Design Your Own Soft Life: Tips on Setting Boundaries, Pursuing Your Passions, and Embracing Slow Living

If there’s one thing life has taught me, it’s that no one is going to hand you your dream life — you have to intentionally create it. For me, that dream life is what I call a soft life: a life filled with peace, purpose, and personal freedom.

But getting here hasn’t been easy. I’ve had to unlearn the mindset of hustle culture. I’ve had to recover from burnout. I’ve had to grow through financial struggles, motherhood challenges, and self-doubt. And through it all, I’ve been learning how to design a life that actually feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good from the outside.

If you’re like me — tired of struggling, craving more calm, and ready to start living on your own terms — here are a few gentle tips that have helped me, and might help you too.

1. Set Boundaries Without Guilt

One of the most powerful things I’ve done is learn to say no — and mean it. Whether it’s with work, family, or even social expectations, I had to stop overextending myself just to please others.

A soft life begins with protecting your peace. That might mean:
– Saying no to last-minute favours when you’re tired
– Turning off notifications when you need to focus or rest
– Creating work hours and sticking to them
– Choosing your own pace, even when others don’t understand

Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re a form of self-respect — and a necessary part of living softly.

2. Pursue Your Passions — Even If It’s Just a Little at a Time

Another important part of my soft life is doing work that lights me up. Whether it's blogging, creating content, managing social media for good causes, or building my handmade brand, I’ve realized that passion and purpose can go hand-in-hand with peace.

You don’t have to wait for “the right time” to start. Just begin where you are:
– Share your thoughts online
– Write that blog post
– Make that product
– Talk about your interests
– Learn a new skill

Even if it's slow, even if it's imperfect, do it with love. Your passion deserves space in your life — not just in your dreams.

3. Embrace Slow Living — On Your Terms

Living slowly doesn’t mean being lazy or giving up. It means choosing what matters most, and letting go of the rush to “keep up” with everyone else.

For me, slow living looks like:
– Creating a morning routine that grounds me
– Resting when I need to, not just when I crash
– Taking time to eat, breathe, pray, journal, or simply be
– Making space in my day for things I love (like plants, tea, soft music, or playing with my kids)

You don’t have to do everything to feel fulfilled. Sometimes, less is more. And sometimes peace is found in the moments we usually overlook.

Designing a soft life isn’t about perfection. It’s about intention. It’s about asking yourself:
– What do I need to feel calm and whole?
– What do I need to remove from my life to feel more aligned?
– How can I show up for myself today?

It’s okay if it takes time. It’s okay if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s version. What matters is that it feels right for you.

You’re allowed to choose ease. You’re allowed to grow slowly. And you’re allowed to live softly, no matter where you’re starting from.

What is a “Soft Life,” and Why Does It Matter in Today’s Fast-Paced World?

In today’s fast-paced, hustle-driven world, the idea of a "soft life" has become a trending topic that’s sparking curiosity and conversations. But what exactly is a soft life, and why does it matter so much, especially when everything around us seems to demand constant effort, productivity, and achievement?

At its core, a “soft life” is about embracing ease, comfort, and balance. It’s about rejecting the constant grind and instead focusing on creating a lifestyle that prioritizes your well-being, freedom, and peace of mind. It’s about choosing a life where you can enjoy the good things without feeling guilty, stressed, or overwhelmed by the pressure to “do it all.”

In a world that glorifies hustle culture, the concept of the soft life serves as a powerful reminder that we don’t have to sacrifice our happiness, health, or relationships to succeed. It’s a mindset that challenges the idea that success should come at the cost of personal fulfillment. Instead, the soft life encourages us to create a life that feels light, fulfilling, and aligned with our values and desires.

But why does this matter, especially now? Well, we live in an era where burnout is more common than ever, and the constant pursuit of perfection can lead to exhaustion and dissatisfaction. With social media perpetuating images of success that often feel unattainable, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison and feel like you’re always behind. A soft life, in this context, offers a refreshing antidote. It’s about creating space for rest, relaxation, and enjoyment — something many of us overlook in our busy lives.

Embracing a soft life doesn’t mean avoiding hard work or responsibility. Instead, it’s about balancing the demands of work and life with moments of calm, joy, and luxury. It’s about curating your life in a way that gives you the freedom to thrive without burnout.

In my journey, the soft life has become a goal I aspire to not just for myself, but for the future I want to create for my family. It’s about investing in what truly matters — health, relationships, and personal growth — while also seeking financial independence, comfort, and a sense of ease. So, let’s explore how we can all start living a more intentional, fulfilling soft life, one that reflects our passions, values, and aspirations.

Why I Focus on Empowering African Women: My Mission and Passion for Uplifting Others

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a deep-seated desire to create change, not just for myself, but for others, especially women. But not just any women; I’m talking about African women. Women who, like me, dream big, work hard, and want more out of life than just the basic survival.

Growing up, I saw countless women around me with so much potential but limited opportunities. They were often caught between traditional expectations, societal pressures, and the challenge of balancing family life with personal ambitions. I witnessed women sacrificing their dreams for others, giving so much of themselves, yet feeling unfulfilled and lost in the process.

This reality sparked something in me—a desire to empower African women to rise above these limitations and live the lives they deserve. I realized that I had a purpose: to help women realize that they don’t have to settle for anything less than extraordinary. Empowering women is not just a mission for me; it’s my passion.

The Need for Change

For many African women, the idea of living life on their own terms can seem impossible. The weight of societal expectations, family pressures, and the lack of access to resources can make it seem like success is out of reach. I’ve felt these struggles firsthand. I’ve been there, torn between family, career, and self. But I’ve learned that we can create our own paths, no matter where we come from or what challenges we face. That’s why I’m so passionate about helping other women break through the barriers that hold them back.

By focusing on education, self-awareness, and action, we can create a movement where women are not just seen as caregivers or mothers, but as leaders, business owners, creators, and change-makers in their communities and beyond.

Why African Women?

I’m particularly passionate about empowering African women because of the unique challenges and incredible potential I see in them. There’s an undeniable resilience and strength in the women of Africa, but so often, that strength is buried under layers of cultural constraints and limited opportunities. As someone who understands the culture, the values, and the struggles of African women, I know the power we have when we come together to support and uplift each other.

In my own journey, I’ve learned that independence and freedom are not just about financial stability; they are about the ability to make decisions, to choose the life we want, and to take control of our destinies. This kind of independence is life-changing, and I want every African woman to know that it’s possible. It’s why I focus my efforts on helping women realize their worth, pursue their passions, and build legacies that will last.

My Mission to Empower

My mission is simple: To help African women feel seen, supported, and empowered. Through my content, my businesses, and my experiences, I aim to inspire women to embrace their independence, find their voice, and take action toward their goals. Whether it's through my blog, social media content, or my social media management work with nonprofits, my goal is to create a space where women can come together, share their experiences, and grow in confidence.

I want to share stories, provide resources, and offer practical tips that help women build the skills they need to thrive—whether that’s through financial literacy, business knowledge, or mindset shifts. I believe that when women are empowered with knowledge, they become unstoppable forces of change.

Building a Legacy of Empowerment

Empowerment is not just about personal growth; it’s about building a legacy that impacts generations to come. I want to help women not just succeed but thrive in a way that leaves a mark on the world—a legacy they can pass down to their children, communities, and peers. Whether it’s starting a business, pursuing education, or finding fulfillment in their personal lives, the legacy we create today will influence the future of African women for years to come.

Why I’m Committed to This Work

I’ve always believed in the power of community and support. The reason I’m so committed to empowering African women is that I know what it feels like to struggle, to feel isolated, and to wonder if your dreams are even worth pursuing. But I also know what it feels like to break free from those limiting beliefs and take control of your life.

This mission is personal for me because I want to create a world where my own children—especially my daughters—can grow up knowing that they have the power to shape their own future, regardless of where they come from. I want them to know that they can dream big and build something meaningful. And I want to help other women experience that same freedom, confidence, and fulfillment.

Moving Forward

As I continue to grow in my journey, I hope to reach more women who are ready to take the next step toward building their own legacies. I want to continue sharing my story, creating valuable content, and offering support so that more women can break free from limitations and live a life they love.

My mission is clear, and it’s fueled by a deep passion to serve ambitious African women who are ready to take control of their futures. I want them to know that they are worthy of success, worthy of happiness, and capable of achieving everything they dream of.

Together, we will rise.

Building Your Own Path: Tips for Ambitious Moms

Being a mom is one of the most fulfilling roles in life, but it can also feel like it’s all-consuming. For many of us, balancing motherhood with personal ambitions can feel like a constant juggling act. As much as we love our children, we also have dreams of creating something of our own, whether it’s building a business, pursuing a passion, or making a lasting impact in the world.

I get it. I’m a mom, too, and I’ve been through the highs and lows of trying to build my own path while raising my little ones. It’s not always easy, but it’s absolutely worth it. And trust me when I say — it’s possible to do both!

If you’re an ambitious mom, just like me, who wants to pursue your dreams and create something meaningful for yourself and your family, here are a few tips that I’ve learned along the way. These tips will help you find the balance you need to build your own path while still being present for your loved ones.

1. Start with Self-Awareness: Know What Drives You

Before you can build your path, you have to understand what motivates you. What are you passionate about? What do you want to accomplish? It’s easy to get caught up in the everyday demands of motherhood, but your dreams matter too. Take time to reflect on your goals and your vision for the future. Is it a business? A creative project? Or maybe a nonprofit cause?

Knowing your why is key because it’ll help you stay grounded and focused when life gets busy. The clarity that comes from identifying your passions will make it easier to prioritize and stay motivated.

2. Time Management is Everything

As a mom, time is limited, but it’s how you use that time that counts. Time management is one of the most important skills you can develop. It’s not just about squeezing everything into your day; it’s about creating a schedule that allows for productivity while still carving out moments for yourself and your family.

Here are a few strategies that help me stay on track:

• Prioritize your tasks: Use a to-do list or time-blocking method to focus on the most important tasks first. Be intentional with your time and know when to say no.

• Create a flexible routine: As moms, we know that things don’t always go as planned. That’s why I recommend having a routine that’s adaptable. This allows you to stay organized but also gives you room to breathe when life throws curveballs.

• Use tools that work for you: Apps like Google Calendar, Trello, or even a simple planner can help you keep track of both family and business commitments. Find what helps you stay organized.

3. Lean Into Support Systems

Building your own path doesn’t mean doing it all alone. It’s okay to lean on your support system, whether it’s your partner, friends, family, or even online communities of like-minded women. There’s no shame in asking for help. In fact, building a strong support network is one of the best things you can do for both your mental well-being and the success of your ventures.

• Delegate household tasks: If possible, share responsibilities with your partner or hire help for tasks like cleaning or grocery shopping.

• Join communities: Online groups or local mom groups where you can share experiences, advice, and resources are incredibly valuable. Connecting with others who understand your journey can make a world of difference.

4. Embrace Flexibility in Your Business

As a mom, you might have to be flexible when it comes to the way you grow your business. There will be days when your child gets sick, when you have to take a step back, or when your plans get disrupted. That’s okay! Instead of feeling frustrated, adjust your mindset and embrace the flexibility that comes with being your own boss.

Consider starting a business that allows you to work from home, has flexible hours, or can be scaled as your time permits. This might be starting an online shop, offering freelance services, or creating content on platforms like YouTube or a blog.

5. Keep Your Focus on Growth, Not Perfection

As an ambitious mom, it’s easy to get bogged down by the pressure of doing everything perfectly. But let me tell you something — perfection is overrated. What matters most is that you’re making progress. Whether it’s taking small steps toward your goals or learning from your mistakes, growth is what counts.

Celebrate the small wins, whether it’s your first blog post published, your first sale, or simply a day when you were able to focus fully on your business. Those moments are what build momentum.

6. Don’t Forget Self-Care

When you're focused on building a business and raising kids, it’s easy to put your own needs last. But neglecting self-care can quickly lead to burnout. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s essential. When you’re rested and recharged, you show up as a better mom, business owner, and person.

• Take breaks: Whether it's a 15-minute walk or reading a book, make sure you carve out time for yourself every day.

• Exercise: Even a few minutes of stretching or yoga can help clear your mind and boost your energy levels.

• Pursue your hobbies: Do something that you enjoy — whether it’s painting, reading, cooking, or something else. It helps you reconnect with yourself and maintain balance.

7. Stay Consistent and Be Patient

Building your own path takes time. There will be days when it feels like things aren’t moving fast enough. But don’t give up. Stay consistent with your efforts, even if the progress is slow. Trust the process and be patient with yourself.

Remember, this journey is yours, and it’s okay if it takes time to figure it all out. The key is to keep going — even when it feels tough.

Being an ambitious mom is all about finding the balance between nurturing your family and nurturing your dreams. It's about creating a life that works for you, where you can be present for your loved ones while building a future that excites and fulfills you.

The path isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. And I want you to know that you can build your own path, no matter where you are right now.

I’m living proof that with a little planning, support, and determination, you can create something beautiful for yourself while still being the amazing mom you are. Stay focused on your goals, embrace the journey, and always remember to celebrate the progress, no matter how small.

You’ve got this!

Practical Steps for Building Your Own Legacy: Tips for Women to Start Building a Legacy, Regardless of Their Current Circumstances

As women, we’re often told to focus on others—to care for our families, nurture our relationships, and put everyone else’s needs before our own. While there’s nothing wrong with caring for those around us, something is empowering about taking control of our own journey and building a legacy that reflects who we are, what we believe in, and the impact we want to leave on the world.

I truly believe that every woman can create her own path and leave a lasting legacy, regardless of her current circumstances. Whether you're starting from scratch or have faced challenges along the way, the key is to take consistent action towards your vision. Here are some practical steps that have helped me along my journey, and I hope they’ll inspire you to start building your own legacy.

1. Start with Clarity: Define Your Legacy

Before you can start building a legacy, it’s crucial to understand what legacy means to you. For me, it’s about empowering women, particularly African women, to create the lives they deserve. It’s about teaching them to build their own businesses, embrace their independence, and pursue their passions without fear or guilt.

Ask yourself, what do I want to leave behind? What do I want people to remember me for? Whether it’s a business, a mindset shift, or a way of living, clarity is the first step toward creating a meaningful legacy. Take some time to think about the kind of impact you want to make and the life you want to live. This clarity will be the driving force behind everything you do.

2. Focus on What You Can Control

It’s easy to get overwhelmed when we look at the big picture, but remember that you can only control what’s within your power. Instead of focusing on what’s outside of your control, focus on the small steps you can take today to move closer to your goals.

In my journey, I’ve had to adapt to challenges like motherhood, finances, and doubt. But I realized that no matter how small the action is, each step counts. Whether it’s reading a book on personal development, writing that blog post, or creating one social media post, these small actions accumulate over time and contribute to building a legacy.

3. Invest in Your Skills and Knowledge

One of the most powerful ways to build a lasting legacy is to invest in yourself. Whether that’s through education, honing your skills, or finding mentors who can help guide you, continuous learning is a key part of growth.

I’ve spent countless hours learning new things about content creation, business management, social media strategies, and more. Every new skill I acquire empowers me to take my brand and business to the next level. The more knowledge you gain, the more opportunities you’ll have to make an impact in your field and create the life you’ve always envisioned.

4. Take Action on Your Ideas

You can have the best ideas in the world, but without action, they’ll remain dreams. Building a legacy requires bold steps forward, even when you don’t feel ready. Don’t wait for the “perfect time.” Start where you are and take action today.

For me, Ngumabi started with a simple love for handcrafted fashion pieces. I didn’t have all the answers, but I started creating, sharing, and experimenting with what I loved. Kaolosphere, my social media management business, grew from a passion for empowering nonprofits. I didn’t have all the resources or certainty, but I took action, reached out to clients, and slowly built my confidence and expertise.

5. Build a Community of Like-Minded People

Legacy isn’t built alone — it’s about creating connections and supporting others along the way. Surround yourself with people who share your values and vision, people who believe in your mission and are willing to lift you up as you rise.

Building a community has been one of the most rewarding parts of my journey. Whether it’s through my blog, my social media platforms, or my work with nonprofits, I’ve been able to connect with women who are just as passionate about creating a lasting impact as I am. Together, we can support and inspire one another.

6. Keep Going, Even When It Gets Hard

The road to building a legacy isn’t easy. There will be moments of doubt, discouragement, and setbacks. I’ve faced plenty of obstacles in my journey, from financial challenges to balancing work and motherhood. But every time I felt like giving up, I reminded myself of why I started in the first place.

It’s okay to take breaks when needed, but don’t let setbacks stop you from pursuing your dreams. Remember, perseverance is key. Your legacy is built over time, and consistency is the bridge between your dreams and your reality.

7. Be Authentic and True to Yourself

A legacy isn’t just about the things you do; it’s about how you do them. Authenticity is at the heart of everything I do. I strive to be honest, open, and true to myself and my audience. Whether it’s through my blog posts, social media updates, or business endeavours, I make sure that my actions align with my core values.

Your authenticity will attract the right people, the ones who resonate with your message and who believe in what you’re building. When you’re true to yourself, you’ll find that the journey of creating your legacy feels more fulfilling.

8. Teach and Empower Others

Building a legacy is not just about what you achieve—it’s about helping others rise with you. As you build your legacy, don’t forget to share your knowledge and experiences with others. Empower the women around you by offering advice, support, and opportunities for growth.

Whether it’s through blog posts, mentorship, or speaking engagements, teaching others is one of the most impactful ways to leave a legacy. The more you give, the more you’ll receive in return.

Your Legacy Starts Today

Creating your legacy may feel overwhelming, but remember, you’re already on your way. The first step is to believe that you have the power to build something meaningful—and then take action, one step at a time.

By defining your vision, focusing on what you can control, investing in yourself, and staying authentic, you’re building something that will last long beyond your lifetime. Your legacy will inspire future generations of women to create their own paths and live the lives they deserve.

Don’t wait for permission. Start today, and watch your legacy unfold.

This season has been sprinkling a little extra joy into my blogging journey, and I’m so grateful.

Just weeks after finding out that my blog was listed among FeedSpot’s Top Black Female Blogs, I made another beautiful discovery:

One of my blog posts was referenced on Wikipedia.
Yes — Wikipedia!

Honestly, it felt like the cherry on top of a very sweet cake. 😊

First, the FeedSpot recognition, and then this — it felt like the universe was giving me a quiet nod of encouragement.

Here’s how it happened:

I was checking my blog’s performance on Google Search Console — trying to understand where my traffic was coming from — when I noticed “Wikipedia.org” listed as one of the sources. I blinked. Wait… Wikipedia?

Curious (and very confused), I went to Google and typed Wikipedia + My Local Adventures Blog, and there it was.

My Ekwang recipe — a dish that means so much to me and so many Cameroonians — had been referenced on a Wikipedia page about Cameroonian cuisine.

Here's the link to the post on Wikipedia:

Why Starting Small Can Lead to Big Success

1. Starting Small Reduces Risk

Many people hesitate to start a business or project because they fear failure. But when you start small, you minimize risks. You don’t have to invest thousands of dollars upfront or quit your job. Instead, you can test your idea, see what works, and make adjustments without major financial losses.

Example: Instead of taking a loan to open a physical clothing store, you could start by selling on Instagram or WhatsApp. If you gain traction, you can then reinvest profits into expanding your business.

2. You Learn as You Grow

One of the biggest advantages of starting small is the opportunity to learn without overwhelming pressure. When you manage things on a smaller scale, you have time to understand your audience, refine your product, and improve your skills.

Example: If you want to be a content creator, you don’t need a professional camera and studio. Start with your phone, record videos, and improve as you go. Many successful YouTubers began with basic equipment and upgraded over time.

3. You Build Confidence and Momentum

Taking small steps allows you to build confidence. The more you do, the more you believe in yourself. With every small win, you gain momentum, which pushes you to keep going.

Example: If you dream of writing a book, don’t wait until you have a publishing deal. Start by writing blog posts or short stories. Over time, your writing will improve, and you’ll feel more prepared for bigger projects.

4. You Develop Stronger Problem-Solving Skills

Starting small forces you to be resourceful and creative. Instead of relying on money to solve problems, you learn how to make things work with what you have.

Example: If you can’t afford professional marketing, you can leverage free tools like social media, word-of-mouth, and collaborations to grow your brand. Many entrepreneurs who start this way become experts in their industries because they learn hands-on problem-solving skills.

5. It’s Easier to Pivot if Needed

Not every idea will work out as planned. If you start small, it’s easier to make adjustments without significant losses. You can experiment, gather feedback, and pivot if necessary.

Example: Imagine you start an online business selling handmade candles. After a few months, you realize that people love your scents but prefer wax melts instead of candles. Because you started small, you can easily shift your focus without losing a huge investment.

6. Small Steps Compound Into Big Results

Many people underestimate the power of small, consistent efforts. When you take small actions daily, they build up over time, leading to big success.

Example: If you start a savings challenge by putting aside $1 a day, in a year, you’ll have $365. If you increase the amount gradually, in a few years, you’ll have thousands saved. The same applies to business and personal growth—small actions create long-term impact.

Starting small isn’t a setback—it’s a strategy. Every big business, influencer, and entrepreneur you admire once started with little. The key is to begin where you are, with what you have, and stay consistent.

Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the first step today, and let the journey unfold. One day, you’ll look back and realize that starting small was the best decision you ever made.

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One day, I had a conversation with a friend who reminded me that many of these successful people had started small, with little to no resources. That single thought changed my perspective. I stopped focusing on what I lacked and started thinking about what I could do with what I had.

If you’ve been holding back on your dreams because you think you need more money, better equipment, or the perfect timing, let me assure you: the key to success is shifting your mindset. Here’s how.

The Mindset Shift Needed to Start With What You Have

1. Focus on What You Have, Not What You Lack

It’s easy to dwell on the things we don’t have—capital, connections, or expertise. But successful people don’t let limitations stop them. They focus on their strengths and use available resources creatively.

Example: You don’t need a professional camera to start a YouTube channel. Many influencers began with their phone cameras. The most important thing is consistency and content quality, not fancy equipment.

2. See Limitations as Opportunities for Growth

When you have limited resources, you learn to be resourceful. This mindset fosters creativity and problem-solving skills that will benefit you in the long run.

Example: If you want to start a business but lack funds, begin by offering services instead of selling products. Freelancers and consultants often start with skills rather than physical inventory, allowing them to grow without a huge initial investment.

3. Take Imperfect Action

Many people delay starting because they want everything to be perfect. But waiting for perfection leads to inaction. The best way to grow is by taking small, imperfect steps forward.

Example: If you dream of launching a blog, don’t wait until you have the perfect website. Start writing and publishing on free platforms like Medium or LinkedIn. Your skills and audience will grow over time.

4. Embrace the Learning Process

Success isn’t about having all the answers from day one—it’s about continuous learning. Each challenge you face is an opportunity to grow and improve.

Example: Many entrepreneurs started without formal business training. Instead of waiting to enroll in a course, they learned by doing—researching online, watching free tutorials, and testing ideas in real life.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity

The people and content you engage with influence your mindset. Surround yourself with individuals who encourage you to start with what you have and take action.

Example: Follow entrepreneurs who share real, practical advice. Join online communities of like-minded individuals who uplift and support each other’s growth.

The biggest shift you need is in your mindset. Instead of seeing obstacles, start seeing opportunities. Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, take the first step now. You already have everything you need to begin—your creativity, determination, and willingness to learn.

The journey to success isn’t about having the best resources; it’s about making the best use of what you have. Start today, and watch how small steps lead to big achievements.

Ogbono Soup Recipe - Cameroonian recipe 

Ingredients

Prepping the ingredients

Cooking 

Harvested waterleaf from my garden

My mixed waterfufu before cooking. I didn't take pictures of the cooking process

Ogbono soup

Ogbono soup and waterfufu