ARE YOU RUNNING OUT OF QUALITY FRIENDS?

This morning I read a post about someone who realized he no longer had his good friends around after he made a list of guests to invite to a party he wanted to organize. He said it was due to the exodus of most of his friends abroad for a better life and related the problem to the difficult conditions of living in the country which pushes people to leave. 

I feel touched by his post because it made me remember that I am almost is the same kind of position. My case may be a bit different because I still have some of my close friends in the country but they are in different towns. In addition, most of us have become mothers and also have careers that makes it difficult for us to see even when we are in the same town. Death has even made the distance further for some of us and the circle of friends that once used to be together is now dispersed. 

It can be hard to make new friends for some people and I'm one of them. And when I say friends I mean good quality friends like the one the author of the post I read was referring to. Good friends like the ones I had who are now far away time and distance wise. 

I have never been intentional about making friends - maybe I should. The friends I've had started from being a good classmate or a good neighbor with whom we clicked and with time they proved they were trustworthy. I still love and consider them my friends and look forward to catching up when possible. Building a life is not easy and I believe we still pray and wish each other well as we focus on our busy lives for now. 

I also guess that time where we made friends naturally is gone now. But how do you make friends intentionally? Honestly that's is a million dollar question for me. 

Do you have a circle of friends? How do you relate with them now that you are grown and busy? 

Hi guys, 

How are you doing?  

Last week was a busy week, but I managed to get some me-time. Please share with me how you unwind after a long week in the comments. 

Considering that I was too tired to go anywhere, especially with the kids, I settled for something easy and within my reach - Watching Nollywood movies on YouTube. I do this a few times a week to relax and entertain myself and it's mostly at the end of the day before I go to sleep. But this week I wanted to spend the weekend especially Saturday watching Nollywood movies. Friday was the busiest day of the week for me. I had some maintenance work going on at my apartment so I had a lot of organisation and cleaning to do. The walls in the rooms were repainted, the window/door blind holders and anti-mosquito nets were installed plus other little stuff that had to be taken care of. The workers were not able to finish on Friday and will hopefully finish it today. 

The movie I enjoyed the most was Original Husband Material with Maurice Sam and Ekamma Etim Iyang as lead actors. It's a romance movie and romance movies are my favourite.

Some images taken during the week: 

By the way it's a public holiday in Cameroon today and tomorrow as well. Sunday and Tuesday (is assumption day) are public holidays in Cameroon and a day between two public holidays is usually declared a public holiday. 

How are you spending the public holiday if you are in Cameroon? Is it also a public holiday in your country today or tomorrow? Please share in the comments. 

Ngumabi. 

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Here are a few pictures to further describe my day: 

It was a challenge to keep avoiding the mud at every step.

Another view of the market.

I got fried chicken gizzards. They were so delicious.

Tigger nuts

Oranges

This boboloh was freshly made and it was really good.

I don't know how they call this fruit but they look like cherries and I love them. But I was a little disappointed this time because there were more soft ones in the ones I bought than usual.

Progress is progress, even if it's baby steps. What matters is that you are no longer where you used to be after every step. 

Progress is not perfection, it's improvement. Stay patient, work hard and trust your journey. 

#ngumabi 

We've been on holiday in Tangui, Cameroon at my mom's for a while now and it's been great so far. 

I needed a break from my usual life in Yaoundé and I'm glad I had the chance to do this at this moment. 

Currently it's the long term holiday in Cameroon so the kids and I are visiting my mom for a while. Other members of the family are here too so it's a family reunion holiday. It's been fun and memory filled do far.

As I mentioned in my previous post, I've been through a lot lately emotionally and I was even feeling depressive. Being here has been a good way to rest and reset my mind and body for a better life. 

Tangui is a village in the Littoral region of Cameroon 🇨🇲 and it's the source of the mineral water brand called 'Source Tangui'. It's a rural area so life here is different from that of Yaoundé which is an urban area. 

My highlights of my time spent here has been harvesting and eating groundnuts from the farm, peeling cassava, breathing fresh and clean air, going jogging on a road with lots of vegetation around it, reuniting and catching up with family. Thus area is a hot zone so it's been a challenge to manage the heat especially with the kids. I'm grateful that there's been more rain falling these days and so the weather is less hot. 

Here are a few pictures of our stay in Tangui, Cameroon.

Planning my content creation after taking a few days to rest.

This break has relieved me of lots of accumulated stress and I feel much more rejuvenated. 

I made a series of vlogs on my YouTube channel of our stay so you can visit by clicking this link to watch or search Ngumabi on YouTube to watch. Please do subscribe when you visit my channel. Thanks 👍🏾. 

Thanks for reading and share with me your thoughts or when was the last time you took such a break or went for a holiday? 

How have you been? Long time no chat. 

Life has been full of changes and I've been through a rollercoaster of emotions. 

I recently took a break from content creation and it did make me feel better. Though I feel like resting some more I don't also want to get too comfortable not creating. So I'm back. 

I recently lost a long time friend and it reminded me to always choose to live without regrets. Do and achieve the things you want to because a fulfilled life what is important at the end. 

Hopefully we get to chat about life more regularly and also share life lessons for aspiring African women on this space. I really want to focus on growing my blog and YouTube channel now so content will be really direct and practical. It will be from my experience and knowledge so I'm planning to do more life updates and chats about topics affecting especially aspiring African women and the world in general. 

Do stay tuned 😊.

How has life been? Hope it has been treating you well.