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The other day I was on the Oprah Winfrey Network YouTube Channel (btw you should check out the channel for she's got some great stuff for personal development there - thank me later!). I came across a video of one of her shows where she interviewed Robert Kiyosaki who wrote: "Rich Dad, Poor Dad". His story is really inspiring as he talked about how he made a lot of money by changing this mindset about money and retired at the age of 47.

At this point, I was like OMG. Imagine how rich and successful this guy was all ready to retire as early as that. Well, this happened so many years ago but the thing is more and more people are getting very rich and successful before they clock 20 or 30 years. In Robert Kiyosaki's case, he was already a millionaire by 30.

The Forbes 30 list celebrates young people who are game-changers every year. And every year, more young people make it to that list before they even turn 25. On the internet young, successful and rich teens hardly go unnoticed as they make headlines on blogs and social media. Should I mention Kylie Jenner who will be worth more than a billion dollars by the year 2022 or her sister who was the highest-paid model in the world last year 2017? Both of them are 20 and 22 years respectively.

I think there are people so young in your area who are really successful and this can be really disturbing because it makes one feel like a complete failure. It's so easy to compare yourself with such people and ask yourself "what exactly have I been doing with my life all these years?"

You may be 29 years old like me and you are still trying to figure out what to do with your life (yes at 29). That's OK. Seeing people way younger than I am become so successful also makes me think and feel like a failure.

Yes, it may be jealousy.

But in this case, you are the victim because you talk down on yourself, compare yourself and direct all the negative thoughts to yourself. You blame yourself for not being successful and being older than them makes you feel like a failure and a loser. It also makes you feel like there's something wrong with you and may look like you are frustrated.

But remember this!

Each and every one of us has a path to follow so our journeys cannot be the same, neither is our timing. God says in the Bible that he cannot let you carry a problem too much for you to bear. Now, this goes to show you that whether it is trouble or success, it will come differently to each and every one of us. In various ways, through various channels and at various times after putting in various amounts of effort because our successes are not the same.

Focus on yourself!

So this is what you have to do:

- Stop asking what you did with your time?

You don't want to do this, OK? It's not good for you. It will only bring regret and make you feel even more worthless and kill your self-belief. So don't let your mind go there.

Remember that life happened. And whatever thing that is responsible for you not being where you want to be, happened for a reason: to teach you and make you the person you are today. So remember the lessons you have learned all these years and don't see that period of your life as a waste of time. It is not. Patience is a virtue but it is not something that most of us have as a character. Those times you were slowed down taught you how to be patient. Now, that's a great lesson.

- Keep grinding!

Don't ever stop your grinding, honey. You may feel weak or discouraged, but keep working towards your goal. Do one thing a day that moves you close your you goal even if you lost your motivation to grind.

- Learn from those who succeeded in what you want to do!

Find ways to work smart! learn the good tricks that others are applying to succeed and do the same.

- Review your strategy!

After learning, create a new strategy and use it.

- Find a mentor!

If you can't do it on your own and feel like you need someone to guide you then find a mentor to help you.

- Never give up!

Seek the light at the end of the tunnel. Never give up!

Bonus tip!

Fill yourself with positivity. Watch motivation videos and read articles to help you stay positive and grow in knowledge. I do this most of the time and I watch a lot of Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Dan Lok and many others so that I can stay positive and overcome every negative thought that comes to my head.

The internet can be a very toxic place as well so you need to arm yourself with a lot of positive thoughts in order not to lose yourself.

I guess many of us already know the profile or qualities of a go-getter but don't know what qualifies someone who is not a go-getter.

But let's define who a go-getter is.

A go-getter girl is a very driven and passionate woman who is intentional and fearless in pursuing her objectives in life.

A go-getter girl is a very driven and passionate woman who is intentional and fearless in pursuing her objectives in life.

It's either you are a go-getter or you are not. And there are signs to show that you are one. I would have written this post to give you the signs that you are a go-getter but I decided to flip it around. If you have some of these signs then sorry, you probably are not a go-getter girl.

How to Know You Are Not a Go-Getter Girl

1. You let fear stop you from pursuing your dreams: You are not courageous enough to go for your dreams

You fear what will happen, how people will see you and what they will say about you when you follow your dreams. But I have more than one question for you, 'Do these people contribute anything other than fear to your life? Do they even genuinely care about you? What do you stand to lose if they talk about you and your crazy desire to achieve your dreams?'

See, I used to be one of those who feared what people will say if they found out that I had a blog. I felt terrified that they will laugh at me, say that I am frustrated and that I have lost my way. So I didn't even let myself share my posts on my Facebook timeline. Because of this, I didn't make much effort to blog more until the day I decided to stop worrying about what my friends on Facebook, think and just post it.

By the way, I have judged others as crazy and lost in the past because they followed their dream so I could only imagine what others would be saying about me blogging.

But with time I learned not to care and keep doing my thing. I made my mistakes and became better in the eyes of so many and I am so glad I took that first step.

If you are uncomfortable with what your friends will think about you taking a path that they don't understand, then just unfollow them and stay away from them if that will make you more confident to work more and achieve your dreams. That's what I did and it worked!

2. You let anything (obstacle) discourage you: You are not consistent

If you abandoned your dream after a few failures then you are not a go-getter girl at all. Go-getters know the taste of failure but also know the value of victory. They never give up as long as they know they are following the right path! They know that every failure is a lesson and a step closer to their goal.

Failure is not obligatory but it's very common on your journey to achieving your goals. You need to stay strong and remain consistent in your efforts to become a high achiever.

Failure is an opportunity to learn and not to lament or feel discouraged.

3. You don't know what you want in life: You don't have a dream or a purpose

If you don't know what you want to be or do, then you absolutely can't be a go-getter girl. Go-getter girls know what they want to do and who they want to become.

That's why they can plan their lives better and make achievable goals.

It sucks to be clueless about what you want to do with your life.. And this doesn't make you a go-getter girl.

4. You prefer to settle for what is doable instead of what you really want to do: You settle for what's doable versus what you really want to do

The fear of choosing your path in life makes you settle for what everyone thinks you "should" be doing instead of what you really want to do.

You prefer to be identified by society as a teacher, a lawyer, a banker, a doctor, a nurse, etc: versus being identified as an artist, a creator, singer, a dancer, an actor, a travel blogger, an activist, a makeup artist, a comedian, etc.

I know it's the dream of some girls to become a doctor, nurse, banker and all the other careers accepted by society and that is totally fine but most girls get into these jobs because they don't know how to go about realizing their dreams. So they turn to what is 'doable'.

5. You are always negative about pursuing your dreams: You only see what would possibly go wrong

Someone who is not a go-getter girl will see only what could go wrong with her dream and hardly the positive. They will dwell on the humiliations, embarrassments and difficult times that they will face pursuing their dreams.

It doesn't mean that go-getter girls don't ever get negative self-talk sometimes. But the difference is that they can still see the bright side and get motivated no matter how small their hope is.

If you think a lot about how things will go wrong then probably you are not a go-getter girl.

6. You are comfortable in your comfort zone: You don't want to get out and do anything that requires you to step out of your comfort zone just to achieve your dreams

Your comfort zone is comfortable and you love it. You don't want to try new things or take on challenges that will help you achieve your goals.

Go-getters make stepping out of their comfort zones a habit. That's how they learn and become better people.

7. You are not a risk-taker and don't like the pressure that comes with it: You won't give up anything to achieve your dream

You won't give up anything for a d*nm dream. You prefer to just do the things you are sure of the results. Life is more of mathematics to you.

The Go-getter girl applies more logic to her life. It's all about changing and bending the rules in her favour along the way. She is ready to risk it all just to achieve her dream and she also gets rewarded big time for the risk taken.

8. You keep wishing you were like other go-getters who are making things happen and succeeding in their lives: All you do is imagine your dream life but you don't want to work towards getting it.

If wishes were horses. A girl who is not a go-getter can only dream, and imagine and will not take action.

Any of us can become a go-getter if we choose to. If you identified yourself with these qualities but want to be a go-getter girl then all you have to do is to decide to become one and do what it takes to succeed. It's not too late to become one.

I remember when I was a child how eager I wanted to grow up and become an adult. It seemed like such a long time then but here I am all grown up and wishing I was a child again. I miss being so carefree and innocent. Even though I have all the freedom I was seeking and I'm done with the dreaded 7:30am to 2:30pm school days.

I wanted to grow up and change the world. And no this is not cliché, I really meant it. It wasn't clear to me how I was going to do it but I wanted to be known as a life-changer; someone who brings change to people's lives in any way. My creative and innovative mind at the time proved that.

When I lost Myself...

Then time passed and adolescence came accompanied by the talks about boys and pregnancy and then marriage.

What bothers me so much at this stage of life is how all these talks come up suddenly when your menstruation begins. Menstruation is the last stage of the process of maturity in a girl, why not begin 'the sex and boys talk' way before it comes?

Anyway, this is the stage I automatically stopped feeling like a child. That was it I had become a woman. Just like that. Womanhood couldn't be complete without the presence of boys.

It was awkward to start getting male attention and dealing with it. It was normal to just sit there and wait for male attention as a teenager, I mean when all the advice you get is "concentrate on your books and forget about men" what else do you expect to do?

But when the rhythm changes to "you need to find a husband or at least a serious relationship so that you can get married by the time you graduate from school/university", then sitting on your bed and waiting is no longer the norm. Either directly or indirectly we ladies feel or hear or go through this sometime in our twenties. It really breaks my heart so much right now that girls even younger than twenty are feeling this pressure these days because this is the point where we girls begin to lose ourselves.

In my case, I met guys I really liked and that I was ready to do and go through almost anything to keep in my life. And in the course of this, little by little I forgot myself and only focused on pleasing them, meeting their expectations and becoming their dream girl. By the time I was done with one relationship, I was so empty. I had no self-esteem, no plans (since all my plans were made with them) and no future for myself. All I wanted was to find a better person to love me again so that my esteem would come back and my life will be better.

When I found myself.

That was the biggest lie I ever told myself. Yes, because every other relationship that I went in with the objective to get my self-esteem lifted and trying to be the perfect partner so that I can be loved unconditionally in return only made emptied me the more and made me feel worse. I walked out, even more, drained even though I got a few days, weeks or months of' happiness' from the relationship.

I realized that I couldn't please anyone completely and I only became less of myself when I please others. Pleasing others didn't help me in any way so why go on doing that?

That's when my priorities changed. I shifted the desire to please others to myself. I decided to be selfish in order to love for just a while. Then I realized just how much I had put aside in order to make others happy. My life, my dreams, my desire to change the world!

I let others change me instead. My desire to become the ideal girl made me nobody at the end of the day. I didn't know who I was and who I wanted to become, I lost my value and didn't know how to set boundaries. How would I set the boundary if I didn't know where to draw the line?

My prayer is for most young girls to know that they do not need to go into relationships ready to please a man so that he can love them better. You don't need to do that honey. Even if society makes you think that it's your submission, obedience, patience, tolerance and fulfilment of his every demand that'll make him be with you and make your relationship last forever. That's Bullsh*t!

Do you boo! Be yourself. Don't change who you are or suppress your dreams to make a relationship work.

Think of how energized and inspired you were before you started dating at all and go ahead and bring that energy back. What were your aspirations then? What did you want to become then? Who did you want to be? Do you have new dreams you want to pursue? Go ahead and pursue them and never give it up when you find love.

If somebody won't stay because you are being yourself & living your purpose then their love is not big enough!

How I Lost Myself Somewhere Along The Road Of Dating

I hope this inspires just one girl out there struggling like I did and needs to find her way back to who she really is.

Who is a mentor a coach and a counsellor? This post will help clarify the differences between these words.

These three terms are often used in the place of each other because people think they mean the same thing. Their definitions are not very different but there exists a clear difference between what a mentor, a coach and a counsellor do.

This clarification will also help you understand which of them you need to work with in order to guide you through your career and life.

Mentoring, Coaching & Counselling: Is There A Difference?

Who is a Mentor?

A mentor is a resourceful person you can depend on for general guidance and advice concerning life or career. It's a person who challenges and helps you with self-development. S/he helps you to become a better version of yourself, to grow and stay motivated to be successful in life goals.

A mentor is more of a generalist because he doesn't really focus on one aspect of your life but he inspires you to think and come up with your own systems and methods to work and achieve your goals. S/he guides you to grow positively and gives you constructive criticism.

S/he may ask you questions that will motivate you to discover yourself and know yourself better. S/he guides you to find new inspiration for your life or career. As well as help you discover new ways to manage your weaknesses and strengths.

A mentor can also be a role model because they are usually solicited because of their experience in life or a domain that they practice in or a domain that they seem to have a lot of knowledge about.

Who is a Coach?

A coach works just like a mentor but s/he is more specialised in one domain of your life. That's why it's possible to have many coaches like a sports coach, a voice coach, a speech coach, a love coach etc because they are very specific and qualify in a particular domain. They show you step-by-step how to obtain the results you want and they guide you along. Coaches are more task-oriented compared to Mentors.

Coaches can be very specialised and may focus only on one aspect of a particular industry. For example, in sports, we have different coaches for every sports type. There are also specialized coaches in each sports type.

So when choosing a coach, you need to have to know the kind of results you are expecting to get from them so that you can choose well.

Who is a Counsellor?

A counsellor on her part is focused on the problems you face and how it affects your life. They help individuals get out of their psychological and personal problems. They are also looked upon as a confidant.

Counsellors just like coaches specialise in various aspects for example; marriage, education, depression, etc.

Most of the time, coaches and counsellors require some specialized education or training to qualify for what they do. But mentors use their experience acquired to mentor their mentees. And they continue to learn from those they work with because every individual is different. Everyone has a different life, problems, past, beliefs, goals or dreams and needs to be guided differently.

It's possible to have people who are mentors and counsellors at the same time or mentor and coach or all three in one person. This distinction is meant to help you know that difference and understand what you really need for your personal life and career.

I've been wanting to ask you:

When are you going to start that project you've been working on? When will it be ever perfect for the world to see and benefit from that great idea of yours? Do you know that the more you keep it away from us the more we are deprived of the benefit of your talent? Do you know that the more you keep it away from the world, the less experience you and know how-how you acquire?

People say sharing is caring, I say sharing is growing and developing. You need to start sharing that idea you have been working on to enable it to grow and develop. It will not grow into anything while it is still on your table, in your bag or in your head. You have to stop over planning it and start doing it.

I know you may have planned from start to finish but how will you know if it will work if you haven't tried it? It doesn't matter if you did a market survey or not, just start. If you fail, you'll learn.

I want to share a story with you. When I started this blog, I had no idea what I wanted to blog about. I read a lot about types of blogs and niches but still couldn't decide on what to focus on. So I decided to just start blogging till I figure out what I really wanted. I am really happy I started this blog two years ago because I have gained experience with the blog and I have grown. I would definitely still be a novice if I had to wait to figure it all out before starting.

This year, I found my focus for my blog which is Women Empowerment Coaching through Personal Development and Lifestyle blogging. When I think of how excited and passionate I am about it, I also think about how much my previous experience in blogging will help me to be more efficient.

I want to encourage you to launch whatever idea you have in mind for a while now by taking the first step. If it is a blog, create it then go find something to blog about. Is it a business? Then make your first product and show the world what you can do. Don't bother about how crazy it may look, the feedback you'll get will enable you to grow, learn and direct you on how to produce better and more refined products.

The best time to start is NOW! All the best honey.

I have used many life and motivational quotes to understand and express my feelings during daily affirmations or mantras. They have worked a great deal for me. It's amazing how a set of few words say so much about you and summarize your life, personality or way of thinking. Life quotes are the best.

Today I'm going to share with you quotes for strong and ambitious women that I love so much. Here we go!

Best Quotes For Strong & Ambitious Women

1. This quote really defines the qualities of a strong woman. A strong woman is a go-getter no matter her environment she makes effort to have a better tomorrow and to make an impact on her generation.

I AM A STRONG WOMAN. I DON’T SIT AROUND FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF, NOR LET PEOPLE MISTREAT ME. I DON’T RESPOND TO PEOPLE WHO DICTATE TO ME OR TRY TO BRING ME DOWN. IF I FALL I WILL RISE UP EVEN STRONGER BECAUSE I AM A SURVIVOR AND NOT A VICTIM. I AM IN CONTROL OF MY LIFE AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN’T ACHIEVE

2. Strong women are role models to those they leave behind, especially their daughters. Most women want to be strong but don't know who to look up to for guidance. Be the woman that will influence your children positively. And teach your sons who a strong woman is.

BE A STRONG WOMAN. SO YOUR DAUGHTER WILL HAVE A ROLE MODEL AND YOUR SON WILL KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN WHEN HE’S A MAN

3. Ambitious women are seen as acting rude most of the time and it's because they are simply women who know exactly what they want from life. Women have for long been labelled as confused and have always been under the control of men but now that more women are beginning to confidently speak up about what they want, they are referred to as rude.

I’M TOUGH, AMBITIOUS AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I WANT. IF THAT MAKES ME A BITCH, OKAY.” – MADONNA

4. Strong women seek the solution before lamenting. They have emotions and break down too but they still stay focused on bringing an alternative solution to the problem.

STRONG WOMEN DON’T PLAY THE VICTIM. DON’T MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK PITIFUL AND DON’T POINT FINGERS. THEY STAND AND THEY DEAL.” – MANDY HALE

5. There was such an aha moment when I read this quote. I hate to be controlled and that's very common with strong women. Strong women know how to control themselves enough and any other control on her drives her nuts. She needs to be set free to do what she wants to do and appreciated more and more for what she does.

I’M NOT SOMEONE WHO CAN BE CONTROLLED. I WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL WATCH ME DO MY THING AND BE LIKE “THAT’S MY GIRL

6. Lady Gaga is so correct in this quote. A man should not make you choose between him and your career in the first place. She said it so right.

SOME WOMEN CHOOSE TO FOLLOW MEN, AND SOME CHOOSE TO FOLLOW THEIR DREAMS. IF YOU’RE WONDERING WHICH WAY TO GO, REMEMBER THAT YOUR CAREER WILL NEVER WAKE UP AND TELL YOU THAT IT DOESN’T LOVE YOU ANYMORE.” – LADY GAG

7. From the moment you took the decision to become who you want to be no matter what, you became an inspiration to other girls and women out there. When you succeed your success story will start from the day you took that decision to follow your dreams.

EACH TIME A WOMAN STANDS UP FOR HERSELF, SHE STANDS UP FOR ALL WOMEN.

8. Like they say 'keep smiling and make them wonder if they even hurt you at all'. Strong women do get weak but they do so in private. And when they break down in front of others, it's to inspire them to wake up and take action.

A STRONG WOMAN IS ONE WHO IS ABLE TO SMILE THIS MORNING LIKE SHE WASN’T CRYING LAST NIGHT.

9. Don't be afraid of failure. You will learn a lot from it. She who is afraid to fail is not willing to learn. Take the lessons dust yourself up and continue moving forward.

THINK LIKE A QUEEN. A QUEEN IS NOT AFRAID TO FAIL. FAILURE IS ANOTHER STEPPING STONE TO GREATNESS.” -OPRAH

10. Oprah couldn't have said it better. There is a path for everyone in life. Every girl has a dream that needs to be realized. Find yours and make your unique impact in this world. Don't carry your talents to the grave. You have deprived us so long of that God-given talent.

I’VE COME TO BELIEVE THAT EACH OF US HAS A PERSONAL CALLING THAT’S AS UNIQUE AS A FINGERPRINT – AND THAT THE BEST WAY TO SUCCEED IS TO DISCOVER WHAT YOU LOVE AND THEN FIND A WAY TO OFFER IT TO OTHERS IN THE FORM OF SERVICE, WORKING HARD, AND ALSO ALLOWING THE ENERGY OF THE UNIVERSE TO LEAD YOU.” – OPRAH WINFREY

11. When a woman fails she is judged by her abilities as a woman and not as an individual. This is wrong. Even among us women, there are women who are stronger than others. We don't have the same physical and mental strength. Our abilities shouldn't be measured by gender but by our individual abilities and resistance.

BECAUSE I AM A WOMAN, I MUST MAKE UNUSUAL EFFORTS TO SUCCEED. IF I FAIL, NO ONE WILL SAY, “SHE DOESN’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES.” THEY WILL SAY, “WOMEN DON’T HAVE WHAT IT TAKES.” – CLARE BOOTHE LUCE

12. Never ever let those who can't see the end of your vision discourage you. Your dream is yours. It's only you who can understand it and make the world understand it. Nobody else has to get it like you do. And when people don't understand something, they will do everything to discourage you from doing it because they just can't see what happens in the end like you do.

NEVER BE LIMITED BY PEOPLE'S LIMITED IMAGINATION.” - MAE JAMISON

13. A woman who makes her voice heard is a strong woman. Use your voice to empower others and show the world who you really are. Use your voice. Don't let the world define you as 'just a woman'. Use your voice to show them what you are made of.

A WOMAN WITH A VOICE IS BY DEFINITION A STRONG WOMAN” - MELINDA GATES

14. Stay optimistic even when the way is dark and blurry. Even when everyone tells you to quit and it really seems obvious that you should. Still, don't give up. Opportunity always shows up at the end of the dark time. Don't make yourself say 'I wish I had held on a while longer'.

OPTIMISM IS THE FAITH THAT LEADS TO ACHIEVEMENT.NOTHING CAN BE DONE WITHOUT HOPE.” - HELLEN KELLER

15. Tough times make you stronger. When you go through the same trial twice the second time is always the easiest. If it comes back over and over again the last experience is always easier to deal with. Whatever the test you go through only makes you stronger and prepares you for greater challenges.

LIFE WILL TEST YOU BUT REMEMBER THIS; WHEN YOU WALK UP A MOUNTAIN YOUR LEGS GET STRONGER

16. Power is never given to you. You have to reach out and take it. If you want to take back the power to decide for yourself then make the decision to start making your own decisions right now.

THE THING WOMEN HAVE GOT TO LEARN IS THAT NOBODY GIVES YOU POWER, YOU JUST TAKE IT.

17. We are strong like that. There are no excuses or obstacles anymore. Life doesn't end when we have kids. In fact, having kids is the new motivation to go out and work.

STRONG ENOUGH TO BEAR THE CHILDREN, THEN GET BACK TO BUSINESS.

18. Transform your stumbling blocks into stepping stones and reach even closer to your goals. Let nothing bring you down.

THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN STUMBLING BLOCKS AND STEPPING STONES IS HOW YOU USE THEM.

19. Every great achievement started with a dream either from childhood or later in life. Dream, work for it and become a woman with a vision.

LITTLE GIRLS WITH DREAMS BECOME WOMEN WITH VISION.

20. To end it all up we have the best quote from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

WE TEACH GIRLS TO SHRINK THEMSELVES, TO MAKE THEMSELVES SMALLER. WE SAY TO GIRLS: ‘YOU CAN HAVE AMBITION, BUT NOT TOO MUCH. YOU SHOULD AIM TO BE SUCCESSFUL, BUT NOT TOO SUCCESSFUL. OTHERWISE, YOU WILL THREATEN THE MAN.’ BECAUSE I AM FEMALE, I AM EXPECTED TO ASPIRE TO MARRIAGE. I AM EXPECTED TO MAKE MY LIFE CHOICES, ALWAYS KEEPING IN MIND THAT MARRIAGE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT. NOW, MARRIAGE CAN BE A SOURCE OF JOY AND LOVE AND MUTUAL SUPPORT, BUT WHY DO WE TEACH GIRLS TO ASPIRE TO MARRIAGE AND WE DON’T TEACH BOYS THE SAME?” – CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

DON'T EVER feel that you are dreaming too big because you are a woman. Dream all you want and fight all you can to make it happen. More women need to see this. Please share this with other women.

My favourite definition for a Go-Getter Girl is this:

Someone who has a vision in her mind of where she wants to be and then she goes after it.

Being a Go-Getter is synonymous with being ambitious. It's intriguing how I feel so empowered when I'm referred to as a Go-Getter Girl. Go-Getter comes with a plus which is the ability to go get what you want and not wait for it to come to you. Being a Go-Getter makes me feel like I have been given wings to fly to anywhere I choose and get whatever I want.

I am a lover of freedom, physically and mentally. I love to feel that I can do anything, think of anything, dream and achieve anything. When I feel restricted, I find it hard to be creative and I can't be myself.

This contributes to making me unique. I can have a dream and work towards achieving it because I know that I am free to do so.

Everything I have now was once only a dream. This blog once existed only in my head. The progress I have made as a blogger was once a dream and I had to be a Go-Getter to take it to this level.

Here are the Benefits of Being a Go-Getter Girl

No regrets and 'what ifs'

Go-Getters would try all the things they dream of doing. There are so many things I have tried because I imagined them. I failed in some and succeeded in some. I also came to realise that I love some things more than others.

This has given me even more certainty in what I'm doing now and where I'm going in life. I have no regrets or wishes of "what if I had done this or that" because I tried doing the things I had only once dreamt of.

Every experience has been a lesson

From good to bad, everything I tried has taught me a different lesson and has made me grow. Every experience has contributed to making me the better person that I am now.

Being a Go-Getter makes you want to step out and experience all kinds of things. Even if you are still finding your path in life, still be a Go-Getter. It will help you discover your true self and set you on the right track in life.

The Road to success

Go-Getter Girls find the road to success, eventually. It takes a lot of work and persistence but surely you will get to the road to success.

Anybody can become a Go-Getter, anyone! All it takes is to know who you are, know what you want and decide to achieve it.

I want to encourage all the ambitious girls who are working hard to make their dreams a reality. You are not alone. Keep working because tomorrow, your story will be an inspiration to other young girls who look up to you.

There are lots of contradicting information out there about pursuing your dreams. But I am a great supporter of following your dreams. I just can't imagine a world without dreamers.

There will be no innovation and if there is any it will be by accident. Who wants to live in a world like that? Definitely, not me. To live in a world where there are no people who are passionate about something can be depressing.

We all should have dreams. We have to do what we love to do. Live the life we want to live. What are your dreams? What is your dream life?

Great achievements start with a dream, an image or thought that kept someone awake all night. Then they become goals and later achievements.

The story of Joseph in the bible is a good example of a dreamer who became a high achiever. But is it enough to just dream? Or only imagine the things we want to achieve in life? In this post, I will show you how to make your dreams become a reality.

How To Turn Your Dreams Into Achievable Goals

1. First of all Dream (Have a vision)

To achieve a dream you have to have a dream. You need to have a vision of what you want for your life. A vision a general image of what you want to achieve.

How do you see yourself living in the next 5 or 10 years to come? What do want to invest your time, money and energy in? What lifestyle do you want to live?

Here are some questions you should answer while having your vision.

2. Find a role model(s) of your dream life

Who are those in the world or around you who are already doing what you dream of doing, living the way you want to live?

Are there people who are already living the life you dream of having? Is there someone you know who has your dream job or your dream career?

Find those people and learn from them how they did it. Read their life stories to know how they became who they are. Now, this doesn't mean that you should copy their lives but just get the lessons they share about their lives and use their story as a guide to finding your own path.

3. Find out what you need to do to realize this dream

Finding a role model is just one step to achieving your dreams. But sometimes there could be no role model in the field you want to go into. While finding one, do a lot of research concerning what you want to do.

I will strongly recommend the internet because it gives you a wide variety of (false and correct) information so be careful. Information on the internet is frequently updated so you will have access to current information in your field.

Also talking to a mentor and learning from your role model(s) is highly recommended as mentioned earlier.

Here are some key questions to ask yourself at this stage: What skills do I need to achieve my dream? Do I have the said skills? How can I get/work on this skill to help me achieve my dream?

Read books and blogs to find out how to become who you want to be. Also, attend seminars and workshops related to what you need to know.

4. Set your Goals

Decide how and when to start taking action to achieve your dreams. Don't wait to be perfectly equipped to start working towards your vision.

Make a plan. Here are some key questions to answer: What skills am I lacking and what resources do I already have? How do I use what I have to start achieving my goal now?

Break your major goals into smaller ones and make plans to achieve them. Remember that every little action takes you closer to your main goal. Give yourself a time frame to realize your goals.

5. Take Action on your goals: Put the knowledge you acquired to use

This is the most important part. It's not enough to make plans. Plans won't realise themselves. Put all the knowledge you got to use.

Start doing the things you are meant to do in order to achieve your dream. Do some self-development, acquire the skills needed to achieve your dream and practice to make progress.

Take action towards your goals such as; taking an online course or training, start working with your mentor, start working on your personal brand, start investing in that business idea, etc.

6. Evaluate your efforts

Use your time frame to evaluate how close you are to your goal.

Most importantly don't give up! There will be challenges but don't let it discourage you. You may experience delays and lose confidence when you don't meet up with deadlines but just take a break, remember why you are doing this (your vision) and keep going towards it.

Hope this motivates you today.

I read a phrase yesterday that reminded me that 'God already made me the best version of myself and it instantly changed my way of thinking about myself.

Some Random Words Of Encouragement To Boost Your Self-Esteem

I'm all about self-improvement and striving to be better. But I do get lost trying to improve myself. This is because I want to be more lovable to others. Meaning that I'm focusing on improving myself for others. This is wrong! It has only made me the worse self-critic ever!

This morning I found myself judging my abilities to do things and not feeling good enough because I was thinking of what people will say and how they will judge me. So I began to judge myself even before they did. I was so hard on myself that I even felt hurt. Then I remembered the words I read yesterday. So I looked myself in the mirror and repeatedly said;

"Abi, you are already the best version of yourself because God made you the best version and he doesn't make mistakes"

To look yourself in the eye and tell yourself things you can't believe is really challenging. But you need to try it because it's uplifting. I feel so good now and I know this is not the end of my self-critic mind. But I believe that this is a good start to counter it.

We need to spend time building a relationship with ourselves as individuals. We never get the time to talk positivity into our own lives. We never decide to spend time looking at ourselves in the mirror to admire our physical beauty nor do we reflect on the times we let our inner beauty shine.

Give yourself some credit. Congratulate yourself! Look at yourself in the eye and truly say "I love you". All the praises and encouragement we give to others, we need to hear it from ourselves too when we succeed. But we rather tear ourselves apart by auto criticizing and pointing out where we went wrong rather than what we did right.

Always ask yourself this when you feel that you've messed up;

"If this happened to my best friend or someone I genuinely care about, will I be building them up or tearing them down with my words? "

I bet if your loved one messed up you will rather correct them with love. You will instead see the things they did right than wrong. And you will remind them that they did well and that life isn't perfect.

Then why do you want to kill yourself when you get it wrong. Remember that God already made you in the best version of yourself even with your mistakes and shortcomings. Even if people say that you are too emotional, you are already the best version of yourself. Even if everyone says that you are too afraid and can't do anything without fear, still know that you are already the best version of yourself.

You are already at your best, whatever improvements you make to yourself are meant to take you to a higher level because you are already the best of yourself.

Stop criticizing who you are. You have enough critics already out there. Don't join them. You don't deserve that. You are making enough effort and deserve to be encouraged.

I hope these words encourage you and make you understand how unique you are and how much the world is lucky to have you in it.

This was meant to be the caption of an Instagram post but the words just kept dropping in my mind and I kept writing them till I had no more characters left. So I made it a blog post instead.

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