I enjoyed the cold weather today. It rained a little yesterday. Today we had no sun and no rain weather. 

Let's Talk About The Weather

It felt good to put on warm clothes. Something I haven't done in a while. We have had days of excess heat lately. It's not been easy to fall asleep in the heat. I'm glad the weather has changed.

When it's cold or rainy I always want to get into bed and watch a video, movie or read interesting blogposts. Like this awesome post about parenting: Parenting isn't meant to be easy. The post is so real and true. If you are looking for an accurate description of what parenting is then you should read it whether you are a parent or not. I hope you love it like I did.

It was nice talking to you about the weather in Yaounde.

Hope this post meets you well. How are you doing? 

I'm doing well and I am happy to write to you today.

I am at one month postpartum and recovering from the birth of my baby by CS has not only been physical but mental as well. 

So today I am sharing with you the ways in which I care for my mental health at this stage of my healing.

5 Ways I Care For My Mental Health At 1 Month Postpartum

Going for daily walks

Sleeping and resting

Watching and listening to ASMR

Eating balanced meals

Blogging

Here are our affirmations for the month of April. Hope you love them and they work for you.

Positive Affirmations For April 

I am worthy of this new month.

This month my life is balanced physically and spiritually

I am growing in all areas of my life this month

This month I am living in abundance

I am conscious of myself and my surrounding 

I am conscious of everything happening to me physically and spiritually

I am brave in times of fear and uncertainty

My goals for this month of April are valid 

My goals for the month of April are achievable

This month I am healthier and wiser

Those are great affirmations for the month of April. Remember you have to work hard for what you want to achieve and believe in yourself. 

For more affirmations for all circumstances visit my positive affirmations blog Ngumabi's Glam. Click here to visit.

Hi guys and a happy new month to you.

Happy New Month | Hope You Are Doing Well

When did 2021 start that we are already in the month of April?

I hope you guys are doing well though. We have been putting our ears to the ground to hear the announcement of any major event that will turn our lives upsidedown like Covid19 did. 

I am glad that so far there hasn't been any major thing like that again. Though the world is still battling with eliminating this disease, I believe most of us are adapting to the changes it has brought to our lives. Surviving this pandemic is already a miracle so you are doing well.

I have been away from the blog for a month and I'm glad to e back. Click here to read this post to know why I have been away all this while.

I hope that we can go back to our usual daily posting. I enjoy posting every day but if I can't post daily I'll still make sure I post many times every week.

I just wanted to know how you are doing and wish you well this month.

How are you doing? I know it's been a few weeks since I posted a blog post. That's because your favourite lifestyle blogger is now a mom of two! 

I had baby number two a few weeks ago on my birthday 🎂. Yes, while others are making wishes and blowing candles on their birthdays I was having a C Section and giving birth to my son. What a way to celebrate and I got the most priceless gifts for my birthday. He's such a cute boy.

These past weeks have been painful healing weeks for me. The pains of the c section were all over my body. I've also been able to get over the fear of the surgery and acknowledge my bravery in the course of facing my fears. 

I thank God immensely for his protection and healing mercies. If not for him I will not be here.

I Didn't Want Another C-Section | Life Update | Having Baby Number Two (Preparation & Healing)

I didn't want to have a c section again.

Writing this makes me remember the knife and scissors that cut open my belly.                                  

I almost saw the process through the reflection of the mirror of the lamp above me. But I looked away. I didn't have the heart to witness it. I hate the sight of blood. 

What I realized at that moment was that there comes a time when a mother has to be strong for their kids. And indeed that moment when I was awake, lying on the operation bed, waiting for my baby to be born and shown to me was one of the most frightful moments for me. But I'm glad I got through it despite the desire to ask them to make me sleep through it. 

And it paid off. I saw my son first (this time before other family members). And it was worth it because that was a special never-experienced-before-moment for me.

Four days after putting to bed

But a few weeks before this moment, I was between hospitals seeking a favourable response. I wanted the doctors to tell me that I could give birth naturally. I wanted to have a natural birth or vaginal birth. 

When my first doctor started telling me about the possibility of another C section, I went to see a second and a third doctor to get other opinions. They shared the same reason why I should have another c section and I was convinced or rather felt like I had no choice.

Preparation

There was a lot of last-minute preparation and I wish we didn't have to wait till the end to get a lot of things done. In the end, I ran from hospital to hospital, doing tests and finally preparing for the c section. Lucky enough we bought the last things the week before I gave birth.

Minutes before I got into the theatre to have my baby.

We also did a lot of washing and general cleaning of the house to receive our little one.

Healing

We spent five days at the hospital. At the end of it, I was glad to go home. The house was a bit messy but I was so happy to be in my space. The calmness and fresh air were nothing compared to the hospital ward I shared with many other women who had to give birth by C-section. Being home helped my healing progress a lot. 

On our way back home 🏡

Reuniting with my firstborn

I thought I could go back to blogging already. OMG, that was such a joke. My body needed to heal. I was still in pains and felt weak. I could not walk straight and my big postpartum belly made sure of that. It weighed so much on the incision and shortened my breath. I need not say that I couldn't sit up for long as well. I also had headaches when I sit up and sleepless nights.

How was I going to write a blog in this condition? I simply listened to my body and accepted that I needed to heal first. It's been a month and I feel way better. I go for walks to help my body heal fast and to get used to walking again. I eat balanced meals to ensure I find the strength to endure all my daily activities. I don't push myself too hard but I still wish I could do more than I am doing now. This is mostly work-related as I am eager to get back to producing more content, and replenishing my shops by purchasing and creating new items.

I'm happy for the progress, I'm grateful for those around me helping me and seeing my two kids bond every day makes me happy. 

Being a mother of two comes with its own joy and I am adapting to the difficulties one day at a time. I'm learning from my experience every day.

I know I didn't make my pregnancy public and that's just a personal preference that I chose for both of my pregnancies. But I knew that I was eventually going to share the news with you.  As for showing my kids online, it's something that I admire but I will not be doing. They may appear partially in some photos or videos on my Youtube channel. I hope you guys understand this preference and still enjoy the content I make.

The rising popularity of influencer marketing in Africa has encouraged more young African women to desire the influencer lifestyle. These influencers share the best parts of their lives in beauty, fashion and lifestyle. They are sometimes called dream sellers because of the expensive lifestyles they often portray.  This has got many African women wanting to be like them.

Who wouldn't want to get paid while living their best life? 

Watch my video on this topic by clicking here.

But just like any other job or occupation, being an influencer in Africa has got its good, bad and ugly sides. 

The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Being A Female Influencer In Africa 🌍

The ability to make money from being famous or having fans is the best part of being an influencer. Brands or enterprises pay influencers to do adverts on their pages and accounts. They may also get free products from brands that they work with or attend events and get paid for their presence.

But in order to get to this level, you have to invest in your own social media branding and get many followers or fans. This requires lots of investment in terms of internet data, knowledge and time. You need to share images, captions or videos of something about yourself or something you know about in order to pull the attention of your audience and get them to follow you. And to build a huge following it takes time.

The other side of being an influencer is the trolls or haters as we commonly call them. Dealing with people who say hurtful things about you or your work can be hard to deal with.

One thing that most African female influencers are often referred to is prostitutes or girls seeking rich men to sleep with.

It is hardly believed that they work hard for some of the things they got. I say some because at times these influencers don't own everything they show. They may rent them or borrow or get them for free.

My favourite female influencers are Muriel Blanche and Nathalie Koah. They are Cameroonian influencers and entrepreneurs. Their humble beginnings compared to where they today inspire me a lot. Another influencer I admire is the Nigerian mom and relationship expert, Blessing Nkiruka commonly known as Blessing CEO. She also inspires me a lot.

These women gained popularity as a result of the things they do or did. It was good for some but it started out bad for others who had scandals to deal with. But the good thing is they turned their lemons into lemonade. They cleaned their images and fought for a better future for themselves. And today they are making a positive impact in the lives of other women.

Those are the good, the bad and the ugly of being an influencer in Africa.

If it is your dream to become one, I hope that you are aware of the opportunities and the risks you expose yourself to with this job.

In my opinion, it is a job worth trying but be ready to be consistent and patient as you show your audience the knowledge that you have.

Social media is the current economic pillar in the world. 

It is fast becoming Africa's new agriculture. Most youths are leaving the farm life for e-commerce. 

If you are looking forward to making the internet your source of income and opportunities then here are a few ways to do so. 

Want to watch instead of reading this topic? Click here.

How African Women Can Use Social Media To Their Advantage

To sell their products

African women are very entrepreneurial. They run small businesses here and there and they need more customers to make earn more money from it.

If you run one or more of such businesses then social media is a good place to market your products. 

Create a page or account and share pictures or videos of your products or services with your friends and followers. 

To make money through influencer marketing

Influencer marketing is the new career of social media. When people become famous on the internet, they use that status to sell products from brands and enterprises on their platforms.

If your dream is to become an influencer then you can make money from it after gaining a loyal audience.

To create opportunities for themselves

African women can use their social media platforms to showcase their talent in order to create opportunities or expose themselves to new and better opportunities out there.

Being talented is not enough. You need the right opportunity to help you blow as we often say, lol.

That's how African women can use social media to their advantage.

There are many people on social media and more are joining every day. You have to move to where people are focusing their attention to make it.

Watch my video on this topic by clicking here.

Tomorrow's success depends on today's investments. 

That's why you have to work on your future right now. 

As African women who want to succeed in life, there are things we ought to do to achieve success. Success doesn't happen by chance. Success is the result of a series of calculated steps. 

In this post, I share with you things you can do in the present to guarantee a successful future. 

Watch the video on this topic instead by clicking here.

How African Women Can Invest In Their Future Now! 

Decide to invest in yourself and your future.

Make the decision to invest in yourself. Everything starts with making a decision. 

Deciding to invest in your future now will make you determined to succeed.

Be disciplined and focused

Discipline is important to be able to attain success. You need to stay focused on your goals and avoid distractions. 

Create routines or systems that work for you. And stay disciplined so that you follow them.

Work hard

Put in all your energy and make it work. Do what it takes to succeed. Don't give up.

Have a vision or a dream

You need to have a vision of what you want or what you are working hard for. 

You need to dream to get the goal or vision for your life. No matter what people tell you about dreams not coming true, don't believe them.

Network

Find people who can help you and network with them. 

Stop keeping friends who can't help you level up professionally. Stop spending time gossiping with your friends. But find people who can impact and improve you intellectually.

Find and create opportunities

If opportunities don't come your way then look for them. 

Use social media to showcase yourself and your talent in order to create opportunities for yourself.

Have faith 

Believe in yourself and your abilities. Even if you are not good at what you do, struggle to improve and keep having faith that you'll succeed. 

Know that; Your present situation is not the end of your life. You can always rise and make a change.

Wishing you all the best on your journey to success. 

If you want more details about this topic watch the video by clicking here.

I've been running my Okirika clothes business for a while now and I just want to update you guys on how it's going and the challenges I'm facing right now.

Click here to watch my video on this topic 

Running An Online Okirika Clothes (Thrift) Shop In Cameroon (Africa) | Challenges So Far

The running of the shop

So this shop sells Okirika clothes for kids and adults. 

I used to run the kids and adults part as two separate businesses but lately, I decided to merge them because I created a new business called Ngumabi's Closet which sells brand new readymade clothes.

My tasks involve going to the market to select the clothes from heaps of Okirika. Then I wash them after buying them. Then I take pictures to put online for sales. 

I often post on the business page of Ngumabi's Thrift Shop on Facebook and Instagram to find customers.

I also share in Facebook groups which are meant for sales in Cameroon. And that is where I have been getting customers so far.

Challenges

Selecting the clothes for sale

Though I enjoy it because it's my passion, the selection is a long and tiring. 

Washing the clothes

This is challenging because washing them is a risk. For white clothes most especially. 

When the sun doesn't shine much it will affect the clothes and they can get stained in the course of washing. 

So it is risky and challenging to wash the clothes but I wash them because I want to give a better shopping experience to my customers. It feels different when shopping for washed Okirika clothes.

Reaching customers on the business pages

Finding customers on the business pages is difficult. The page is not followed by my people and my posts don't reach a lot of people. 

I have not yet made sales from my business pages but have had one or two people ask for the prices. 

Taking the right pictures

For the clothes to attract customers the pictures have to be good. It's often a challenge to take the best photos of the clothes because of the lighting most especially. I use my phone for the pictures and I rely on natural light to make the pictures bright. 

Some days are dark and sometimes it's hard to put the phone camera in the right setting to take the best pictures.

Pricing the clothes

This is a challenge because customers do compare my prices with that of the prices in the market and this makes it complicated to sell or even to know how to price the clothes at times.

Not having a shop or a meeting in public places to sell.

Of course, meeting in a public place is the best and safest way to meet clients but it's challenging when we can't find a spot to sit so that they take their time to make their choice. I often take my clients to a mini cafeteria where I make a purchase there just to sit with my client and sell but on days when it isn't open it becomes challenging to stand up and do sales.

All the same, I am working hard to get a boutique someday soon to make the shopping experience better for my customers.

That's how I manage my online okirika or friperie or thrift business in Cameroon.

Watch my video on this topic by clicking here

Skills African Women Need To Succeed This 21st Century

Internet and social media skills

Entrepreneurial skills

Marketing skills

A fighting spirit

The skill of not giving up

The skill of starting all over again

The skill of not giving a f***k