Are you scared of taking charge of your life? Yes, taking charge of ones' life can be scary. It doesn't necessarily mean that you become automatically independent when you take charge of your life. It only requires you to be more in control of your actions in the present and in the future.

If you feel lost when it comes to keeping track of your self-development, career, love and life in general then you need to sit up and start taking charge!

How to take charge of your life.

1. Decide to be responsible for your decisions and actions

Own your decisions and the consequences of your decisions. Accept your mistakes and correct them without shame or pride. We all make mistakes. You have to look at your mistakes as opportunities to learn.

2. Make and keep worthy relationships

Create and keep relationships that steer you in the direction of success. Avoid those who kill your self-confidence and ignore negative energy from those around you. Ask yourself from time to time what your gain is from every relationship.

Be ready to give your time and energy to keep worthy relationships. Good relationships are based on giving and taking, so be willing to play your part and make your own share of sacrifices for it to work.

3. Have a vision for your life and break it down into goals.

How do you want your life to be in 5 or 10 years? After answering this, write down steps on how to achieve them. Take action to realise these goals daily.

4. Take action on your goals and embrace obstacles

Well defined goals without action make no difference. It's an action towards achieving your goals that makes you take control of your life.

Start with the things that you find easy to do. It helps you stay motivated to do more complicated tasks.

5. Make yourself a priority

Choose yourself first. it doesn't mean you should be selfish but realise that your comfort and happiness counts. Don't promise more than what you can give.

You need to take care of yourself physically and mentally to be able to take charge of your life. You need to be confident so make yourself a priority.

I can hear Riri singing in wild thoughts in my ear right now lol.

I want to share with you a few 'wild' thoughts I used to have as a teenager concerning relationships.

Actually, they are more on the romantic side and thinking about them reminded me of Rihana's song wild thoughts.

My teenage self was inexperienced with relationships and could only dream of them.

Me spending loads of time with myself could have influenced that. I am an introvert and life is a repeat because I live almost every life scene in my head before it happens.

I also watched tv a lot and my favourite shows were the Brazillian series and Romantic music videos.

Most of all I read many romantic novels - Mills & Boon, Harlequin and Historical romance.

My Wild Thoughts

Wild Thoughts I Had about Relationships as a Teenager

1. Looking through the window, lost in thought, my lover comes, holds me from behind, squeezes me in his arms and I smile grabbing his arms around me.

Ha! Need I elaborate? This is the most romantic thought that haunted me. Maybe it still does. This dream has happened a number of times but not exactly the same way that I imagined it.

I wasn't standing by a window most of the times it happened but I think it's one of those moments that I can not get enough

2. Pulled and kissed preferably while I'm walking away.

I don't how many of us ladies are guilty of this. Please indicate in the comment section if you have imagined being pulled and insisted to be kissed by your dream guy because he couldn't wait any longer.

3. Imagine a cute celebrity I like wooing me and fighting every obstacle till he gets me

Dreaming is free and I made use of it. I could have Brad Pit, Eddy Murphy, Tyrese Gibson, Keath Sweat and Usher as I wanted, when I wanted and how I wanted.

Sorry, I know they are older now but I'm a 90s babe and those were some of my celebrity crushes then.

4. Melting in the arms of my crush, clinging to and exploring his perfect body as he plants his first kiss on my lips.

That's how I imagine my first kiss. Turned out I didn't even like it when it happened. I was even too scared to return it not to talk of digging into the kisser's body that was far from what I dreamt of.

Let's leave it there. It may not have happened as I thought, but those were really lovely moments in my head.