It's a love story but not the usual happy ending. It tells the story of a lady who fell in love with a man who didn't love her enough to be serious with her but he kept showing up when he wanted her, her feelings didn't matter to him, and and he dated other women without remorse. He wasn't serious about her but he will say things that will give her hope or keep her hooked like "I can't let you go", "we are getting to know each other", "I want to wake up next to you", "You are special". 

Why You Need To Avoid That 'Special' Type Of Love 

Such a relationship is like a drug that only takes from you and doesn't give back. even if you give it all you got this person will still not love more. 

So it's time to think about yourself more; Treat yourself the way you expect this person to treat you. Give all the love to yourself and not him. Withdraw from him and keep your distance; This is the hardest part but you can do it. You are strong. Make yourself priority and treat yourself well. Don't accept the disrespect and lack of consideration anymore. You are too beautiful and worthy to be treated anyhow by anybody. 

You got this.

Talk to you in my next one. Take care

On her list were the traditional wife creators who own monetized accounts which I agree with because they teach women to be traditional wives but they have accounts that make them money and give them a certain degree of independence depending on how much they make.  

At the end of her post, she asked her audience to mention other scams if they knew any. A lady mentioned women working cooperate jobs which makes them feel broken. My first thought after reading her response was 'There are women who love and enjoy the cooperate world so why say that?'. Then I saw that below her response, someone said what was on my mind to her and she responded saying that what she mentioned was her experience. At that point, she was told not to generalize but to talk about her own experience. 

That post made me think about the number of posts that I have come across where some women said that; a woman who works is operating from a masculine energy because women are not meant to work. 

Honestly, I didn't even know if I should agree or disagree with that statement when I first heard it but over time I realized that I strongly disagree. 

There are many independent women who are very feminine just like there are housewives who are not feminine at all. Femininity is an energy a woman carries and applies in everything she does. So a woman can work, earn a living, be independent and still be very feminine because her being feminine is not determined by the fact that she has a job or she's working.  

With this trend of women wanting to be dependent on men, I wonder if there's a consideration for the risk of losing it all in case things go wrong. I know some kind men take good care of their wives and family without even complaining but it's always an advantage when a woman has her own money. Not all women married to or dating men who are providers have the freedom to express themselves or do what they want, And if the man is abusive it makes it even ten times harder to leave when you are dependent on him. To make depending on a man financially work for you, you have to make sure you save from what he gives you and you also have valuable properties in your name so that you can have something to fall on or to start a business in case things go sour. 

It's true that by nature men are providers because that's what makes their ego grow but we now live in an era that requires women to work for their own survival and safety. Times have changed. Not only is life more expensive than before, but life is more complex because everything is being sold compared to before when people could rely on nature to provide food and shelter for free. 

If you are blessed with a good man who is a provider, don't let it stop you from working or saving up or investing because there could be rainy days though we don't pray for it. 

Don't let trends fool you because if there are consequences you'll be the only one to bear it o. Ok.