Happy month of October fam. Yes I know the month is almost over lol.

Hope you are feeling well. 

It's more obvious that we are at the end of the year now as we are in the end October. 

September was back-to-school and it's been about learning to get two kids ready for school. I've also been enjoying more solo time now that both kids are going to school. Today for example, I used that time to rest and reset. At first, I didn't know what to do with myself at that time because it felt good to be by myself like that. Now I'm getting used to it and making use of it for sure. I hope the back-to-school is going on well for you too.

I'm watching the third season of "Bachelor Afrique Francophone" and it's quite interesting. The bachelor this time around seems more objective that's why it's a highlight for me. I'm a fan of fun reality shows and I enjoy the conversations online too. I look forward to Tuesday evenings with enthusiasm. 

September went so fast and as we look forward to October, I wish you lots of blessings and positive things these last months of the year. You need to stay positive in order achieve as much as you can. If you still have plans to achieve your goals for this year then you should think and stay positive. You can still do it or at least try. Whatever efforts you make towards your goals will take you somewhere closer to what you want to achieve. So stay positive. Pray for your goals and send a lot of positive vibes through your thoughts to it. 

I just got out of a "functional freeze" and now I feel good writing this post. A functional freeze is similar to a writer's block but it involves the lack of motivation or energy to do many daily tasks in your life. Itt often occurs after a period of intense work or focus to achieve an objective which makes your brain go to rest mood. I didn't understand this until I saw a video on Tiktok talking about it. I'm glad I found that video because it helped me understand what I was experiencing and eventually a solution. That said, let me share with you guys how things have been going lately.

A while ago I told you guys about my weight loss journey and since then I've made more progress thanks to more intermittent fasting. I honestly didn't have the strength to workout since I was fasting and I didn't feel like it mentally. I don't know yet how much I weigh now but my body has really improved. I'm proud of myself because the fasting wasn't easy but I did it. I fasted from about 8 pm to midday the next day for a little over a week. During my eating time, I ate normally or just what I needed. I didn't try to eat too much or more than I needed to.

Fitting into clothes is much better though my belly still stands out. But at least I can "suck my belly in" to have a flat tummy. Lol.

We are getting close to looking like the baddie we used to be a few years ago lol. The journey is tough but we thank God. 

And with a touch of white hair color I've been able to pull the baddie look for a few weeks now. 

After months and even years of not taking care of my appearance as I used to, I decided to focus on grooming myself back to my younger self. Lol, it's not been an easy journey and I have been trying different things like getting a low cut and also trying different hair colors too. Although my main reason for cutting my hair was to have an easy and low maintenance hairstyle I also wanted to find my face, the face I know - My younger face. Now that I'm satisfied with the younger look, I feel like growing my hair again. We'll see. It's been fun and exciting so far with all the changes I have made with my hair. And I am glad I let myself go on this adventure to try new things and extreme colors.

The long holiday is over and I'm switching to back-to-school mood which is not easy. The school runs will begin very soon. I'm excited about the free alone time I'll get and at the same time I'm bothered by the early mornings I have to start getting use to.

 

I hope you are warming up for the school reopening too. Wishing all you parents a wonderful reopening and all the best in Jesus' name, amen.

Have a blessed month of September.

Take care.

It's a love story but not the usual happy ending. It tells the story of a lady who fell in love with a man who didn't love her enough to be serious with her but he kept showing up when he wanted her, her feelings didn't matter to him, and and he dated other women without remorse. He wasn't serious about her but he will say things that will give her hope or keep her hooked like "I can't let you go", "we are getting to know each other", "I want to wake up next to you", "You are special". 

Why You Need To Avoid That 'Special' Type Of Love 

Such a relationship is like a drug that only takes from you and doesn't give back. even if you give it all you got this person will still not love more. 

So it's time to think about yourself more; Treat yourself the way you expect this person to treat you. Give all the love to yourself and not him. Withdraw from him and keep your distance; This is the hardest part but you can do it. You are strong. Make yourself priority and treat yourself well. Don't accept the disrespect and lack of consideration anymore. You are too beautiful and worthy to be treated anyhow by anybody. 

You got this.

Talk to you in my next one. Take care

It's been a while we had a chit-chat about life on this space.

Hope you guys are doing well. 

I've been wanting to do this post for the longest time now. But life has been lifing. 

It's been challenging to keep up with writing updates weekly so I thought it would be better to change it. We will now call our weekly updates Life Lately so that I can post them when I'm ready or able to. That said, here we go with life lately. 

Busy and overwhelming these past weeks. If you didn't know, I am a social media manager and strategist for social impact (I work with non profits and charities). I am building my professional and personal brands and it is energy and time consuming. It's something I enjoy doing and like any other job it can be overwhelming. These past weeks have been survival mode for me and I'm on a mini break now to avoid burnout.

I'm making the most of the second half of the year. Evaluating and improving. also praying more and trusting God for the best because He is the Almighty God and I can only trust Him for all my needs. 

I'm taking content creation even more seriously on this blog and my YouTube channel and will be more intense about creating content to inspire and inform ambitious women to become knowledgeable, as well as financially and emotionally intelligent. The tips are really practical and honest with a details of what I do for my self growth. 

The determination to do this intensely for the rest of the year came from my desire to make this last part of the year count and also since I shared the trad wife post on YouTube which got more views than usual in a few hours. Watch the video here. 

Life lately has been full of eye opening experiences especially career wise and much retrospection; I've been exposed to work experiences that will definitely help me in the future as a social media manager and strategist for social impact. There are fresh ideas to explore and I'll be doing that on my career page Kaolosphere. 

I'm excited for the rest of the year and if you you are also determined to make the next 5 months count then say 'I got this!' in the comment section. 

Wishing you a wonderful week ad see you in the next empowering post. 💋

On her list were the traditional wife creators who own monetized accounts which I agree with because they teach women to be traditional wives but they have accounts that make them money and give them a certain degree of independence depending on how much they make.  

At the end of her post, she asked her audience to mention other scams if they knew any. A lady mentioned women working cooperate jobs which makes them feel broken. My first thought after reading her response was 'There are women who love and enjoy the cooperate world so why say that?'. Then I saw that below her response, someone said what was on my mind to her and she responded saying that what she mentioned was her experience. At that point, she was told not to generalize but to talk about her own experience. 

That post made me think about the number of posts that I have come across where some women said that; a woman who works is operating from a masculine energy because women are not meant to work. 

Honestly, I didn't even know if I should agree or disagree with that statement when I first heard it but over time I realized that I strongly disagree. 

There are many independent women who are very feminine just like there are housewives who are not feminine at all. Femininity is an energy a woman carries and applies in everything she does. So a woman can work, earn a living, be independent and still be very feminine because her being feminine is not determined by the fact that she has a job or she's working.  

With this trend of women wanting to be dependent on men, I wonder if there's a consideration for the risk of losing it all in case things go wrong. I know some kind men take good care of their wives and family without even complaining but it's always an advantage when a woman has her own money. Not all women married to or dating men who are providers have the freedom to express themselves or do what they want, And if the man is abusive it makes it even ten times harder to leave when you are dependent on him. To make depending on a man financially work for you, you have to make sure you save from what he gives you and you also have valuable properties in your name so that you can have something to fall on or to start a business in case things go sour. 

It's true that by nature men are providers because that's what makes their ego grow but we now live in an era that requires women to work for their own survival and safety. Times have changed. Not only is life more expensive than before, but life is more complex because everything is being sold compared to before when people could rely on nature to provide food and shelter for free. 

If you are blessed with a good man who is a provider, don't let it stop you from working or saving up or investing because there could be rainy days though we don't pray for it. 

Don't let trends fool you because if there are consequences you'll be the only one to bear it o. Ok.

Hope you are doing well. Today let's retrace my journey on Youtube. I must say I have grown on this platform despite not being very consistent with creating content there. I think I've had more of seasons on YouTube. So here are the various seasons I've had.

It's been an interesting journey on Youtube looking at all these stages and hopefully I can come back in a few months to share another remarkable growth and milestone with you guys. 

Happy Sunday. Hope you are doing well today. 

Today is the second day I'm waking up to blogging on my laptop and it feels so amazing. For the past months, I've been creating content on my phone. My laptop and desktop got bad at the same time making these past months challenging for me to work and create content. I love working on my phone but there are some things which are easier to do on a computer. Also there's a wider view I get while working on my laptop or computer which makes me feel creative in a different way. 

While working yesterday I was excited to open my blog and other pages I havent seen on my computer for a long time. When I got to my YouTube channel, I was able to see my videos together and I realized that I've had quite a journey of growth on YouTube. I will talk about the highlights of that journey in my next post.

This morning while blogging. I still have to repair the keyboard of my laptop but I'm so happy and grateful that I can use the external keyboard.

The old feeling of being a blogger is comming back since I started blogging on my laptop. And I love the feeling so much! Also I get less distracted on my computer because i have motifications from apps like instagra and facebook. And the feeling of "just pressing my phone the whole day" has reduced lol. 

😊

Hope you are doing well. 

I haven't been consistent with the weekly recaps so here is what happened these past few weeks.

I haven't hiked for more than a month now but I've been working out seriously at home and lost some more weight. I feel proud of myself and I shared more about it in my latest youtube video.

Also, I've been taking my skin care seriously and I added a few fashion items to my wardrobe. 

For what's new, I explored new short hair styles and started gardening again. Yay! I'm really excited about seeing my plants grow.

There's been more desire to clean up and organize some spaces in my home that I hadn't cleaned in a while. 

That's what I've been up to lately and just to add that I'm actually writing this blog post on my computer and I'm so happy to be able to do this after such a long while. My computers all got bad and I'm glad I was able to get at least one of them repaired. All this while I've been blogging on my phone. Though I love blogging on my phone, there's a different lovely feeling when I blog on my computer. 

So guys tanks for reading my post today and let's catch up in the comments with your thoughts and what you have been up to lately. 

We hiked Mt Fébé & Ngoa-ekele. I have separate videos of these experiences which are each unique 

Mt Fébé Yaoundé Cameroon 

Hope you liked the pictures. 

Here are the links to the videos of these hiking experiences 👇🏾

Please watch, like and subscribe to my YouTube channel 🙏🏾. Thanks for your support. 

I'll see you in my next post. 

Ngumabi.