I’ve spent the past few weeks doing something I didn’t expect to take up so much of my energy.

I’ve been rebuilding my blog. This blog.

Not redesigning it. Not changing the colours. Just rebuilding what it’s about.

For a long time, I felt like my blog had to be useful all the time. Every post needed a lesson, a takeaway, or a big point.

And somewhere along the way, I drifted away from the kind of blogging I actually enjoy.

The funny thing is, I didn’t really notice how much that had affected me until I started changing it back.

Instead of asking, “What should I teach?” I started asking,

“What have I been doing lately?”

“What have I been enjoying?”

“What have I been noticing?”

Those questions felt a lot more natural.

They sounded like me.

So I stopped trying to make my blog fit into some idea I had of what it should be, and just let it be a place where I can share my everyday life properly.

I didn’t think that would change anything outside of my laptop.

But it did.

This morning I woke up feeling lighter.

Not because everything in my life is suddenly different.

It isn’t.

I still have responsibilities. I still have goals. I still have things I’m figuring out.

But I just felt a bit more like myself.

For the first time in a long time, I wanted to make myself a cup of tea.

And if you know me, you know I love tea.

Ironically, I hadn’t made myself one in what feels like forever.

The heater I use for boiling water for tea had been packed away in the cupboard for months. Maybe longer.

This morning I took it out.

I washed it well, filled it with water, heated the water, put it in my cup, added my tea, stirred in the last bit of honey, stood there and sipped.

It wasn’t some big, dramatic morning.

But it felt nice.

I even picked up my camera and filmed the whole thing for my YouTube vlog.

Not because I thought it was going to be some deep moment.

Not because I thought anyone needed a lesson from it.

But because I now have more clarity on the direction of my content for YouTube that the story felt worthy of a vlog.

After that, I went outside with my tea and looked at my plants.

I looked at them differently. I felt peace. That made me smile.

Then I made breakfast, filmed a few more clips for my vlog, and carried on with my day.

Simple as all of that sounds, it made me feel like I’d found a small part of myself again.

I’ve also been thinking differently about my home.

Not in a “I need to go out and buy a bunch of new things” kind of way.

More like I’ve started imagining what I could slowly do with it over time.

Maybe making floor cushions myself.

Repotting my plants and placing them inside the living room to decorate.

Finding little ways to make the space feel more inviting.

Not because my house needs to be perfect.

Just because I want it to feel more lived in. Comfortable. Like us.

I think that’s what this has really been about.

Not building a perfect life.

Not trying to make everyday life look a certain way.

Just paying attention to the life I already have.

Enjoying it a bit more.

Noticing it more.

Sharing it.

It’s funny how something as simple as letting myself blog the way I naturally want to has changed how I move through my day.

Maybe that’s what happens when you stop forcing yourself into something that doesn’t quite fit.

I’m looking forward to seeing where this goes.

And this time, I think I’ll actually enjoy documenting it along the way.

Working, Earning, and Holding It Together

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about work, energy, and how I’m actually holding everything together behind the scenes.

I didn’t stop doing things completely, but I did take a step back—especially from heavy work. I could feel myself getting overwhelmed, and I didn’t want to push until I burned out. I’ve been there before, and I know how it starts. For me, it’s when I’m doing many things at once without a clear plan, and everything starts feeling heavy instead of productive.

At that point, even simple tasks feel like too much.

So I slowed down.

I stepped back from most client work, especially the ones that needed a lot of mental energy. I still showed up where I could, but I reduced my load on purpose. I needed space to think properly and reset my brain.

That time was important for me. Not because I was being lazy, but because I needed clarity.

I rested, yes, but I also spent time thinking about my blog and my content. I realized that I didn’t want to just keep posting or creating for the sake of it. I wanted my content to make more sense — to reflect my real life, my current season, and the things I’m actually navigating.

So I used that period to refine things. I thought about what Life in Motion really means to me. I thought about how I want to write, what kind of stories I want to tell, and how I want people to experience my blog when they come here.

This blog isn’t just about work or business. It’s about how I work, earn, and still manage life at the same time. Working from home. Managing money decisions. Trying to grow creatively. Feeling tired some days. Feeling hopeful on others. Wanting success, but also wanting peace.

That’s the reality I’m living, and that’s what I want this space to reflect.

Now that January is here, I’m slowly stepping back into my work again, including client work — but with more intention. I’m not trying to rush or overload myself. I’m choosing to move with more structure and better boundaries.

I’m also focusing on doing better with my content — on the blog and on YouTube. Not louder, not more dramatic, just better. Better quality. Better direction. Content that feels true to where I am right now.

I’ve also been quieter on social media than usual, but that was part of the same decision. I wanted less noise while I figured things out. As I start sharing more again, it will be more about supporting what I’m building here and showing real life as it’s happening.

So this is where I am at the moment — working, earning, adjusting, resting when needed, and trying to hold everything together without losing myself in the process.

That’s what Life in Motion looks like for me right now.

Hello loves, 

Hope you are doing well. I had a moment of realization where I worked on myself and want to share it with you to help somebody too.

I Realized My Attachment Style Was Hurting Me—Here’s What I Learned

Lately, I’ve been navigating dating when I realized something important about myself: how I attach to people. Even small connections, like during the talking stage, have been creating unnecessary disappointment and emotional exhaustion for me. I want to share this part of my journey because I know other women might see themselves in it.

I've noticed that I invested emotionally too quickly. I did this by imagining scenarios, building expectations, and attaching before there was any real foundation. To me, this was my way of validating the person for myself in my head. But those scenarios created connections unknown to me, and when things don’t happen the way I imagined, I felt disappointed, even if logically I know there was no commitment. And it became hard to detach. It literally felt like a heartbreak every time. 

This is a pattern I’ve seen in myself with most dating periods I've had. It was exhausting and, honestly, unfair to myself. I had to work on it.

Here’s what I’ve learned and am actively practising:

1. Attachment comes from imagination—notice it early

• When I catch myself imagining things with someone, I stop it.

• I remind myself that imagining does not equal reality.

• This helps me reduce the intensity of early emotional attachment.

5. Self-awareness is the real lesson

• The biggest gift in this process is noticing my attachment patterns and being honest with myself.

• Understanding this helps me see where I’ve been giving my heart too quickly and where I need to slow down.

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