Being in your twenties can feel very fabulous. But that is the period which determines a lot in your life. Here are fifty honest pieces of advice for you if you are in your twenties.

50 Honest Pieces Of Advice For 20-Year-Olds 

1. Listen to the wisdom that comes from the mistakes other people have made, but remember you also have strengths and wisdom they don't have

2. Live your life, and take responsibility for your actions.

3. Yellow flags become red flags. Don’t ignore both.

4. Don’t confuse love/connection for infatuation.


5. The reason why we miss or hang on to people is that we feel they will fill the unmet need that we didn’t get as a child.

6. Alcohol is literary a poison killing your energy and your shine

7. You don’t need him boo.

8. Start training your mind on how to visually see your success every day.

9. Don't try to be perfect, that's impossible. Give yourself permission to fail, without shame, learn from your mistakes and always move on trusting yourself and your path.

10. Be patient and don’t be afraid to fail

11. Save 25% of EVERY incoming income.

12. Be your own hero.

13. Live in the present, experience, make mistakes, play, enjoy!

14. Be in touch with your heart and your feelings. Cultivate and practise compassion, love and kindness toward yourself and others.

15. Take the time to get to know yourself, live and embrace your truth, be authentic.

16. Take the time to figure out what YOU want to achieve in life. Don’t rush anything. You’re young and have all the time in the world. Don’t take life to serious (yet).

17. Learn from everything: from people, from books, from the process, from life, from your failures, from everything.

18. Look for a purpose for your life, when you know who you are you will know what your purpose is.

19. Don't think you know better.


21. Keep studying harder, be the best one and look for a profession that makes you happy.

 22. Learn with patience.

 23. Don't fear to think and dream big.

24. Enjoy your life to the fullest. Time flies. Make the most of it. Do what you like. As for making a living, do ONLY what you like. Trust your own capabilities. You deserve the best life has to offer. Be smart.

25. Travel and try new things.

26. Forget about your insecurities.

27. Listen more than you talk.

28. Use your 20s to try out things and have a variety of life experiences, have fun, make mistakes, don't be afraid to make mistakes, travel the world, and invest in personal development. Don't make a job decision based on what looks good on your CV, but rather what feels good to you now as a next step


29. Spend your time around people who either help you grow, you can have fun with, or are of valuable support to you. Do not waste your time with people that do not want the absolute best for you and don't lift you up when you think of them.

30. Respect other living beings.

31. Be grateful for everything that you have.

32. Take calculated risks and design your own path.

33. At 20, a person is heavily influenced by their friends. Take a good hard look at them and seriously ask yourself if they are helpful or hurtful for YOU. If hurtful, run away from them.

34. Work hard, and listen to people who have been there before. Find strong and positive influences.

35. Create the habit of reading. Your concept of the world will change and with that your perception of success.

36. Go full speed after your dreams.

37. Just because you’re cute and have a nice body doesn’t mean you need to sleep with everyone who thinks you are cute.

38. Don’t get pregnant until you know who you are and what you want in life.

39. Focus more on short term goals.

40. Don't trust and love everyone.

41. Dream BIG, start SMALL and stay HUMBLE.

42. Watch a lot of Gary Vaynerchuk very informative.

43. Listen to people who are in a position you want to be in.

44. Be careful who you marry/have kids with.

45. Know your worth and always strive for more.

46. Do NOT try to fit in and do things because you think other people will think it's cool. Attention will NEVER make you genuinely happy. Seriously so many people at age 20 spend all their time trying to be cool and worry about having the newest cool trends and the coolest iPhone and so on. Once you develop genuine happiness and learn to love yourself you'll only regret all the time and money and energy you wasted trying to fit in this box.

48. No matter what happens, always love and put GOD and then yourself first.

49. Embrace growth.

50. Advice given is only received when the mind is open.

When I was little before I got pregnant, I used to wonder if pregnant women felt pain when the baby was growing inside them. I wondered how will someone's body stretch that much and it will not be painful.

I never had the courage to as any pregnant woman that question. Not even my mother nor my friends who had babies before me.  (I don't know why)

My question was answered when I got pregnant. It rather felt itchy as my belly stretched every day. God is wonderful is all I could say.

But with my curiosity put aside, another question arose - How does all this stretch get back in place?

Life In A Postpartum Body

That question was meant to be answered after I put to bed. And that is what has led me to write this post about life in a postpartum body.

The photos were taken about two months after the birth of my daughter.

Related: First Fashion Post After Having A Baby

The flip side...

Living In A Postpartum Body

Creating A Balance

One of the biggest things that's stopping people from having what they want in life is FEAR. Fear can paralyze you and make you unhappy because it stops you from doing the things you want to do. That's why it is important to discover what kind of fear you are dealing with and find solutions to get it out of your way.

Here are four different types of fear you may be feeling.

4 Different Types Of Fear & How To Overcome Them By Yourself

Fears and Symptoms 

Fear of the Unknown,

You fear something but you don't know what it is. You have no clear knowledge of the danger you think you may come across. It can also be when you are not clear about the possible effects the danger might have on you. This is the case with what we are currently facing now in the world which is the fear of COVID-19. We are afraid to get it and this virus has caused many people to lose their jobs, therefore, causing them to fear what will happen to them in the future.

Fear of Failure,

You are afraid of not succeeding in the things you want to do or achieve. Fear of failure comes from a series or a pattern of failure like when the people you know have failed in the past or you have experienced a series of failures. This may make you think or start to believe that you will fail again when you try the next thing or project.

Fear of Success,

You fear being successful or achieving your goal. This usually stems from the fact that we have attributed negative stereotypes to money and being successful. For example, many people believe that rich people are heartless, they are unhappy or that money is evil. These beliefs can affect your desire to succeed because you may be afraid of being a bad person when you eventually become rich.

Fear of What Other People Think

How To Overcome Your Fears.

Health

Skin Care

- Use as few chemicals on your skin as possible
- Wear sunscreen and Moisturize
- Treat your skin

Looks

- Avoid extra piercings and tattoos. You may regret them later.
- Invest in durable outfits. It will save you money and make you look expensive.

Social

- Party as much because you may not be as carefree in the future when you have more responsibilities.
- Have fun and socialize but protect your reputation. Don't do things that you may regret doing in the future.
- Choose good friends.
- Do not feel obligated to stay with a crowd who are not on the same wavelength.
- Drink only good alcohol. It will make you drink less.
- Have impeccable manners.
- Don't get drunk in public.
- Surround yourself with people who want to lift you up not bring you down.
- Careful about what you post on the internet. It may hunt you forever.

Finances

- Learn about how to do financial investments.
- Save part of your paycheck every month for an emergency fund.
- Invest
- Don't buy expensive stuff that you won't use often.

Relationship

- Don't risk falling in love with a man whose vision of life does not align with yours
- Date older guys (at least eight years older). You'll learn a lot from them.
- Don't date men who are rude, low class or hoping to change. It's a waste of time and energy.
- Do not have kids unless it is with a high net worth man to whom you are married to.
- Invest your love, attention and energy only in men who invest in you.
- Don't focus on getting a man. There is enough time for that. Enjoy your life first. Have fun and learn as much as you can before you commit.
- Get to know yourself before you get into marriage if it comes in your twenties.
- Don't over-invest in a man.
- Don't waste your time on cheap men who make you feel worthless
- Don't believe a man can change if he is bad.
- Don't join your finances with that of a man.

Family

- Spend more time with your grandparents if you still have them. You will learn a lot from them
- Love & honour your parents.

Note that you must not do or not do all of these things but just find the ones that resonate the most with your life's objectives and goals.

Tips To Feel At Home In A New House

Decorate it

Develop a relationship with your neighbours (if you can)

Spend some time out of your home and return

Keep modifying till you are satisfied

Create new memories

Give it time

When seasons change, there are many things that change with it. Some things which used to serve us no longer do and we will begin to feel that it is time for a change. It's always advisable to be ready for the new season, especially the rainy season. The significant change in weather from long sunny days to dark skies and rainfall requires a new set of clothes to either resurface or to be purchased.

Here are some outfits you will need to face this rainy season in Cameroon without stress.

Sweater

Of course. Need I say more? A sweater is a very necessary outfit for your wardrobe during the rainy season. It will be worth considering to have outing sweaters and sweaters to wear at home for the rainy season.

Jackets

These can serve the purpose of pullovers but they are more stylish. You can wear jackets when you want to look fancy and stylish yet you want to stay warm. 

Leggings

Leggings are great when you still want to wear your short dresses despite the cold weather. They will keep your legs warm and protected from the cold.

Hats

Hats are very important because they protect your head from the cold. They can also make your outfit stylish.

      

Scarfs

Scarfs are stylish but they can replace pullovers if you go for the large and thicker ones. The smaller scarfs can be used to protect your neck from the cold especially when you are on a bike. Scarfs also come in handy when the rain starts unexpectedly and you don't have an umbrella. You can use it to protect your hair, bag or any other fragile thing you may be carrying.

 

Boots

Boots are the best shoes for the rainy season because they protect your feet from the rain. They are usually made from good leather or plastic. You can own different kinds of boots for different purposes or outfits. Some boots are more stylish and others are quite plain or fabricated for a particular purpose. Some have heels some don't. So choose your boots according to how you need them.

One of the dangerous effects of the pandemic is that it can cause anxiety. Anxiety doesn't feel good at all. It starts slowly and then takes over your mind and body. That's why you have to fight it as soon as possible. Don't give it an opportunity to install itself in your body.

            

        

Are you a former student or currently studying in UniYao 1? Then you should read this post as it contains information that may concern you now or in the future.

It occurred to me that I should share this information because I met a lot of people who were confused or had no information about how to certify their documents, when to deposit and when to collect them. I was as confused as them when I went there for certification. And having been through the process and successfully certifying my documents, I thought it wise to share with you how it is done.

Ngoaekelle (popularly known as Ngoa) is a university where the simplest things could become a nightmare for you. My experience wasn't a nightmare (Thank God!) but it could have been if it had been delayed one more day. By the time I collected my certified documents, I was one day before the deadline of my job application. Meaning that if it had been delayed one more day I wouldn't have been able to apply for the job.

Thank God that didn't happen. That's why it is important to know how to obtain your documents on time from the certification office at The University of Yaoundé 1, Cameroon. Let's get right into it.

How To Certify Documents At The University of Yaounde 1

The steps are simple:

- Photocopy your documents

- Go to the certification office with your original and photocopied documents before 11am to deposit

- Collect your documents the next day from 11: 30am

- Easy indeed right? Well, it isn't always as easy as it seems.

So this is how it really happens.

On the first day, I went to deposit the document. I went there way past the time of depositing (at about 2pm) but I was considered and my documents were taken because I was with my baby.

I deposited two copies of the document I wanted to certify. I just thought I should do so in case I needed another certified copy. The next day, I went there to collect them the office was locked. Mind you it was about midday.

The notice above the door of the office says documents are collected until 2pm. But it was closed. And it remained closed until I left at almost 2pm.

It was the next day that I succeeded to collect them. I went there at about 10am to be sure that I'll meet those working there. So here are my tips.

Tips on certifying your documents at the University of Yaoundé 1

- Go in the morning to deposit and or collect your documents. Try to be there before 11am most preferably. That way you are sure of meeting it open. They actually don't respect opening and closing hours anymore.

- You are most likely to collect your certified documents on the second day after you deposit. The students I met in front of the office said the same.

- Certify as many copies as possible at once. If you are a job seeker and need many certified copies of your documents then deposit many copies to be certified. I heard that they deny signing too many copies at the same time but I did certify two copies of the same document at the same time. So do many copies especially at the start of the year if you can so that you don't have any pressure when the time comes for you to use it.

These are my tips and directions on how to certify your documents in Ngoa.

NB: The office is located in the famous scolarité building (at the back). The door is the second door while coming from Amphi 1003.