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I watched a nollywood movie called "The Art Of Letting Go" by Bolaji Ogunmola. It's an interesting movie and you can watch it on YouTube. This movie is unique because of the story.

It's a love story but not the usual happy ending. It tells the story of a lady who fell in love with a man who didn't love her enough to be serious with her but he kept showing up when he wanted her, her feelings didn't matter to him, and and he dated other women without remorse. He wasn't serious about her but he will say things that will give her hope or keep her hooked like "I can't let you go", "we are getting to know each other", "I want to wake up next to you", "You are special".

Why You Need To Avoid That 'Special' Type Of Love

The reason why I'm bringing this movie up is because these are the kind of relationships that make us women lose their minds. We fall so in love with this guy and want to grab every opportunity to hang in there though we are being bread crumbed. And when i say bread crumbed, I mean we are given less than the bare minimum in the relationship. We may know that he doesn't love us but we love them so much that we are ready to let them have their way all the time - just to have a piece of them or to feel worthy of their time.

Usually this man fits perfectly in the description of your dream man in terms of the physical look, intelligence and charisma and they are usually hard to forget or let go. Reason why in the movie the lady had a hard time resisting him.

If this story seems familiar to you or if you are in such a relationship then you need to make a real decision to leave because it will only make you mor miserable, make you feel unworthy and uncapable to make any decision for yourself. Your love is not enough to sustain the relationship for the both of you.

Such a relationship is like a drug that only takes from you and doesn't give back. even if you give it all you got this person will still not love more.

So it's time to think about yourself more; Treat yourself the way you expect this person to treat you. Give all the love to yourself and not him. Withdraw from him and keep your distance; This is the hardest part but you can do it. You are strong. Make yourself priority and treat yourself well. Don't accept the disrespect and lack of consideration anymore. You are too beautiful and worthy to be treated anyhow by anybody.

You got this.

Talk to you in my next one. Take care

Hi guys,

It's been a while we had a chit-chat about life on this space.

Hope you guys are doing well.

I've been wanting to do this post for the longest time now. But life has been lifing.

It's been challenging to keep up with writing updates weekly so I thought it would be better to change it. We will now call our weekly updates Life Lately so that I can post them when I'm ready or able to. That said, here we go with life lately.

Life lately has been:

Busy and overwhelming these past weeks. If you didn't know, I am a social media manager and strategist for social impact (I work with non profits and charities). I am building my professional and personal brands and it is energy and time consuming. It's something I enjoy doing and like any other job it can be overwhelming. These past weeks have been survival mode for me and I'm on a mini break now to avoid burnout.

I'm making the most of the second half of the year. Evaluating and improving. also praying more and trusting God for the best because He is the Almighty God and I can only trust Him for all my needs.

I'm taking content creation even more seriously on this blog and my YouTube channel and will be more intense about creating content to inspire and inform ambitious women to become knowledgeable, as well as financially and emotionally intelligent. The tips are really practical and honest with a details of what I do for my self growth.

The determination to do this intensely for the rest of the year came from my desire to make this last part of the year count and also since I shared the trad wife post on YouTube which got more views than usual in a few hours. Watch the video here.

Life lately has been full of eye opening experiences especially career wise and much retrospection; I've been exposed to work experiences that will definitely help me in the future as a social media manager and strategist for social impact. There are fresh ideas to explore and I'll be doing that on my career page Kaolosphere.

I'm excited for the rest of the year and if you you are also determined to make the next 5 months count then say 'I got this!' in the comment section.

Wishing you a wonderful week ad see you in the next empowering post. 💋

Weekly Updates Becomes Life Lately | Making The Most Of The last Half Of The Year

I saw a post today on Threads where someone shared some trends on the internet that are scams.

On her list was the trad wife creators who own monetized accounts which I agree with because they teach women to be traditional wives but they have accounts that make them money and give them a certain degree of independence depending on how much they make.

At the end of her post she asked her audience to mention other scams if they know any. A lady mentioned women working cooperate jobs which makes them feel broken. My first thought after reading her response was 'there are women who love and enjoy the cooperate world so why say that?'. Then I saw that below her response, someone said what was on my mind to her and she responded saying that what she mentioned was her experience. At that point, she was told not to generalize but talk about her own experience.

Women Who Work Are Not Masculine | Don't Let Trends Fool You

That post made me think about the number of posts that I have come across where some women said that; a woman who works is operating from a masculine energy because women are not meant to work.

Honestly I didn't even know if I should agree or disagree with that statement when I first heard it but over time I realized that I strongly disagree.

There are many independent women who are very feminine just like there are housewives who are not feminine at all. Femininity is an energy a woman carries and applies in everything she does. So a woman can work, earn a living, be independent and still be very feminine because her being feminine is not determined by the fact that she has a job or she's working.

With this trend of women wanting to be dependent on men, I wonder if there's a consideration for the risk of losing it all in case things go wrong. I know there are kind men who take good care of their wives and family without even complaining but it's always an advantage when a woman has her own money. Not all women married to or dating men who are providers have the freedom to express themselves or do what they want; And if the man is abusive it makes it even ten times harder to leave when you are dependent on him. To make depending on a man financially work for you, you have to make sure you save from what he gives you and you also have valuable properties in your name so that you can have something to fall on or to start a business in case things go sour.

It's true that by nature men are providers because that's what makes their ego grow but we now live in an era that requires women to work for their own survival and safety. Times have changed. Not only is life more expensive than before, life is more complex because everything is being sold compared to before where people could rely on nature to provide food and shelter for free.

If you are blessed with a good man who is a provider, don't let it stop you from working or saving up or investing because there could be rainy days though we don't pray for it.

Don't let trends fool you because if there are consequences you'll be the only one to bear it o. Ok.