Women have been brought up to believe that suffering is part of their life. That they must suffer from a man if they want a better relationship. That they must be the ones to clean everyone's mess. That they must put their desires and dreams aside and watch or support others to reach their own dreams while they hurt inside. That they must support the bad treatment they get from men in their homes or the mistreatments from society and keep hurting inside though they pretend everything is alright.

But this is not why we were born, dear woman. 

Everyone is meant to struggle, suffer or get hurt at some point in life but it's not meant to be the norm for you. It's not right for you to believe that you are meant to suffer or get hurt every time. We have accepted our fate in suffering so much that we don't feel surprised when it happens. We just accept it and find ways to cope with it instead of finding ways to end it. 

(African) Women, You Are Not Born To Hurt Or Suffer

Change your way of thinking my dear and think like a smart lady. 

You need to believe that you deserve a better life. Sufferings may come but let them be for things that are really worth it. let it be for things that you desire too and not only for the sake of others. Suffer for the things you desire but don't suffer for the sake of suffering my dear.

You can get good things in your life if you believe that you deserve them. You don't have to minimize your ability to attract good things easily to your life. You can have a ready-made man. You must not suffer with a man in order to feel worthy of reaping the benefits in the future. You can have brilliant ideas that work out and flourish on the first try. Just believe, work hard and put your desires on the table as others have done. Because your desires are valid too. 

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